Nothing is that black or white. Somewhat off the cuff but good advice gets amplified on the internet and treated as if it's a 'law' that must not be broken.
I happen to prefer playing with bass players who play low and simple, I least prefer guys who are competing with the guitar frequencies and filling every bar with multiple notes. But there are a lot of stopping off points along that journey. Playing with a guy who suddenly plays something melodic in the upper register, after sticking low and simple for most of the song is wonderful.
As someone said earlier, drum rudiments are a vocabulary, helping you to communicate. Having a wider vocabulary is never a bad thing, but dominating the conversation, talking over others with a lot of obscure big words IS annoying.