BenOBrienSmith
Senior Member
I read through this whole thread yesterday evening and decided not to revive it unless someone followed up. Since a couple posts went up today, I'm sharing what I drafted. To be clear, this isn't directed at any one person.
I've got a LOT of thoughts on this as I straddle both sides of the industry and, via SLaD, have some degree of influencer status while also advising brands on their use of players for marketing in a variety of scenarios. On top of that, I haven't prioritized live performance in a while but people see my hands all over demos of products and probably don't have any idea who I am. If anyone questioned the validity of my career, I'd probably laugh at first but then feel sorry for them.
It really bums me out to see people judging the validity of someone else's approach to drumming, whether they're earning some income with it or not. Being insecure or lacking some confidence, especially when you're navigating your own career in what the vast majority of people would consider to be a non-traditional path, is natural. Feeding that insecurity by judging others is incredibly unhealthy. There are so many toxic assumptions in this thread about the goals of the people being judged, not to mention the context not visible beyond the tip of the iceberg. Despite the fact that many of us would acknowledge that we're all far more than who we appear to be online, there's still a natural instinct to think that we know enough to make a judgement call about someone based on what we see from them online.
Not everyone's goals are the same. What someone finds joy in may bore the hell out of you or maybe vice versa. Not everyone wants to play in a band or have to cart their gear around or deal with all of the personalities involved in live performance. Some people are physically unable to do this. Others are mentally unable. If they've figured out something that brings them joy without causing harm, who is anyone to judge? If they've managed to make a career out of that, can't we be happy for them? Using your personal yardstick to qualify someone's application of drumming against your own expectations is a pretty unhealthy mindset. This gets into comparing yourself to others based on what you see and feeling the need to call into question their success vs. yours. The ongoing labeling and othering of people is so incredibly toxic.
I see a lot of fear and narrow-minded bitterness, especially from more seasoned professionals in this industry, about how (often younger) players are pursing their own musical journey. There seems to be this idea that everyone should need to struggle a bit, pay their dues, and grow through it. When that's not done publicly and juxtaposed with the success of the individual there's the assumption that it didn't happen. There's quite a bit of entitlement out there as well. This relates to the gigs people get hired for, the brand deals they establish, the degree of influence they have, etc. If you find yourself falling into these habits, I strongly recommend some therapy and self reflection.
I've got a LOT of thoughts on this as I straddle both sides of the industry and, via SLaD, have some degree of influencer status while also advising brands on their use of players for marketing in a variety of scenarios. On top of that, I haven't prioritized live performance in a while but people see my hands all over demos of products and probably don't have any idea who I am. If anyone questioned the validity of my career, I'd probably laugh at first but then feel sorry for them.
It really bums me out to see people judging the validity of someone else's approach to drumming, whether they're earning some income with it or not. Being insecure or lacking some confidence, especially when you're navigating your own career in what the vast majority of people would consider to be a non-traditional path, is natural. Feeding that insecurity by judging others is incredibly unhealthy. There are so many toxic assumptions in this thread about the goals of the people being judged, not to mention the context not visible beyond the tip of the iceberg. Despite the fact that many of us would acknowledge that we're all far more than who we appear to be online, there's still a natural instinct to think that we know enough to make a judgement call about someone based on what we see from them online.
Not everyone's goals are the same. What someone finds joy in may bore the hell out of you or maybe vice versa. Not everyone wants to play in a band or have to cart their gear around or deal with all of the personalities involved in live performance. Some people are physically unable to do this. Others are mentally unable. If they've figured out something that brings them joy without causing harm, who is anyone to judge? If they've managed to make a career out of that, can't we be happy for them? Using your personal yardstick to qualify someone's application of drumming against your own expectations is a pretty unhealthy mindset. This gets into comparing yourself to others based on what you see and feeling the need to call into question their success vs. yours. The ongoing labeling and othering of people is so incredibly toxic.
I see a lot of fear and narrow-minded bitterness, especially from more seasoned professionals in this industry, about how (often younger) players are pursing their own musical journey. There seems to be this idea that everyone should need to struggle a bit, pay their dues, and grow through it. When that's not done publicly and juxtaposed with the success of the individual there's the assumption that it didn't happen. There's quite a bit of entitlement out there as well. This relates to the gigs people get hired for, the brand deals they establish, the degree of influence they have, etc. If you find yourself falling into these habits, I strongly recommend some therapy and self reflection.