rogue_drummer
Gold Member
Usually I don't make reference to many things in my private life on this forum apart from drumming, but this event crosses the boudaries and blurs my private life with my drumming and music life.
Let me explain: Back in Sept. 08 I auditioned to be the drummer at a tiny church venue about 45 minutes from my house. I passed the audition with flying colors, so to speak. All was going great from Sept - Dec 08. I received many compliments on my playing and even did some side gigs with a few band members around Halloween and Xmas. The pay was nothing expect for a few free lunches and dinners. I was never reimbursed for my gas or equipment expenses. I did it mainly to get back into playing with a legit band. Of course, I made some mistakes and I worked to correct them, but all in all, my playing was on par with what they wanted and they liked it. They said I was "innovative" because I used mallet cymbal rolls, maracas, wood blocks, and Djembes; pretty normal stuff but I'll take it.
Comes the new year and we get change in band leadership. I've written several posts of my opinion of our new leader, so suffice it to say, I didn't like the guy's ego or arrogance, or his limited leadership ability. From Jan 09 - mid-March he compliments me none-the-less. I even ask if what I'm playing is ok. I receive more compliments from him along the lines of "It sounds fine", "sounds cool", "great", etc. What would a normal person think? Must be doing ok, right?
March 17th I'm dismissed - in other words - fired. The leader or the pastor didn't even have the balls to tell me themselves. Another band member had to delieve the news. When I asked why, all he said was "he thought" the leader wanted to bring in his buddy from another band to play the drums. This was a non-paying gig, so money ain't in the equation.
Needless to say, after spending 7 months driving twice a week up and down the highway, spending my hard-earned money when gas was almost $4.00 per gallon, buying additional equipment to use, putting in time and effort and rearranging my schedule to accomodate them, while sometimes juggling my two kids' schedules to attend rehearsals, I WAS MAD. I planned on meeting with them to find out exactly why, but again, they were too chicken shit to even confront me since I let it be known I was angry.
Skip forward to this month. I get a notice from our city's police department saying I've been harrassing the leader (Class B Misdemeanor, punishable by up to a $2,000 fine and/or 6 months in jail) and I need to come to the HQ to "discuss" the matter. Ok, now I'm really pissed off. I walk in with my attorney and meet with a detective assigned the case. I explained my side of the story from beginning to end. I got an understanding nod from the cop. After evaluating what I told him versus what the leader said I did, the entire case was dropped and dismissed on the spot. Even the cop was chuckling a bit.
Bottom line: whenver you run into a stuck-up prick like I described my former band leader to be, no matter what, walk away from it and don't look back, no matter how mad you are. These people screw people around royally and then expect to get away with it, but they are the very first to jump up and yell and scream the loudest whenever they experience it themselves. Just walk away from these idiots; they ain't worth your time or trouble.
I'm now in two bands playing music with a more mature, fun-loving bunch of cats who thoroughly enjoy themselves and have no egos whatsoever.
Cheers!
Let me explain: Back in Sept. 08 I auditioned to be the drummer at a tiny church venue about 45 minutes from my house. I passed the audition with flying colors, so to speak. All was going great from Sept - Dec 08. I received many compliments on my playing and even did some side gigs with a few band members around Halloween and Xmas. The pay was nothing expect for a few free lunches and dinners. I was never reimbursed for my gas or equipment expenses. I did it mainly to get back into playing with a legit band. Of course, I made some mistakes and I worked to correct them, but all in all, my playing was on par with what they wanted and they liked it. They said I was "innovative" because I used mallet cymbal rolls, maracas, wood blocks, and Djembes; pretty normal stuff but I'll take it.
Comes the new year and we get change in band leadership. I've written several posts of my opinion of our new leader, so suffice it to say, I didn't like the guy's ego or arrogance, or his limited leadership ability. From Jan 09 - mid-March he compliments me none-the-less. I even ask if what I'm playing is ok. I receive more compliments from him along the lines of "It sounds fine", "sounds cool", "great", etc. What would a normal person think? Must be doing ok, right?
March 17th I'm dismissed - in other words - fired. The leader or the pastor didn't even have the balls to tell me themselves. Another band member had to delieve the news. When I asked why, all he said was "he thought" the leader wanted to bring in his buddy from another band to play the drums. This was a non-paying gig, so money ain't in the equation.
Needless to say, after spending 7 months driving twice a week up and down the highway, spending my hard-earned money when gas was almost $4.00 per gallon, buying additional equipment to use, putting in time and effort and rearranging my schedule to accomodate them, while sometimes juggling my two kids' schedules to attend rehearsals, I WAS MAD. I planned on meeting with them to find out exactly why, but again, they were too chicken shit to even confront me since I let it be known I was angry.
Skip forward to this month. I get a notice from our city's police department saying I've been harrassing the leader (Class B Misdemeanor, punishable by up to a $2,000 fine and/or 6 months in jail) and I need to come to the HQ to "discuss" the matter. Ok, now I'm really pissed off. I walk in with my attorney and meet with a detective assigned the case. I explained my side of the story from beginning to end. I got an understanding nod from the cop. After evaluating what I told him versus what the leader said I did, the entire case was dropped and dismissed on the spot. Even the cop was chuckling a bit.
Bottom line: whenver you run into a stuck-up prick like I described my former band leader to be, no matter what, walk away from it and don't look back, no matter how mad you are. These people screw people around royally and then expect to get away with it, but they are the very first to jump up and yell and scream the loudest whenever they experience it themselves. Just walk away from these idiots; they ain't worth your time or trouble.
I'm now in two bands playing music with a more mature, fun-loving bunch of cats who thoroughly enjoy themselves and have no egos whatsoever.
Cheers!
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