Love the idea of a drumkit in the lounge, AnonAs a self taught player I can offer a recent, non-technical insight that has helped me, even though I've played on and off for almost 40 years.
My drums are a feature in my lounge room like someone might have a piano. A couple of months ago I sat down at the drums and started playing a few beats and licks ... and it struck me that I was just making a bloody din, a kind of ugly din too. Then I imagined someone with a piano at home sitting at the instrument and immediately just making a sustained racket - maybe whacking down some ff chords with aimless licks.
When most piano players sit down at their instrument they actually play music. So that's what I'm trying to do on drums (within the instrument's context of course).
(Mentally reorganises lounge....