I've found sometimes my mistakes aren'tThere's lot of good advice in here mostly by players more knowledgeable than myself so I'll just drop a couple of quotes by some of the greats mentioned that have helped me:
Art Blakey "If you make a mistake, repeat it 2 more times and no one will notice"
Max Roach "I don't tune my Tom's to a note. A good drummer is able to beat his drums into the key of the song"
NB: please don't take these as verbatim quotes, I cannot find the original interviews or transcripts they came from
That at all but just an idea trying to get out. Thank you for that food for thought.