Larry, I would be absolutely interested in hearing about your system. A Tune-Bot will measure a result but it doesn't determine how you get it.
OK yammydude, just for you. I'll try and simplify it as best as I can.
This only works on drums with an even number of lugs.
A 6 lug tom has 3 straight "tuning lines".
I focus on one tuning line at a time. While lightly touching the center of the head with my fingertip to make the harmonic sound. I tap near each of the 2 lugs that make up the straight line, listening to any differences in the harmonic note, and adjusting in small increments if necessary until they match.
The main takeaway is that both sides of the drum are being worked for even-ness.
I sample all 3 tuning lines and I start with the line that sounds the most in tune to begin with.
After I get the first 2 lugs harmonic sound to match each other, I do the same with the other 2 tuning lines, trying to match the first line. This more or less insures that my head doesn't go on cockeyed.
The bottom head doesn't have to be muted but it doesn't hurt.
I won't go into the important relationship between the top and bottom heads here, other than to say that it's good to know what you like as far as the phase relationship between the 2 heads are concerned.
After I tune both heads, then to really finish the job, I adjust the relationship of the 2 heads to the way I like them, reso an octave higher than the batter, judging by the harmonics. It's my personal favorite way to tune out of the many different and completely valid variations.