Mikebike88
Member
I'm in a situation right now that has been eating at me for quite some time now. I joined a second full-time band last fall, going from Rock music to Metal. It turns out that I like the newer band much much more. The response to this second band in just a few shows has already outdone what the response has been for dozens of shows in the last 3 years with my first band. Friends and family actually care to SHOW UP when the second band plays. And also, a lot of good local acts contact US to play shows with them, etc. I am starting to lose the love of playing Rock music which makes me upset. Not only that but two bands is really constricting my time and I find myself hardly ever being able to do things like spend time with my family, go to the gym, or even just to practice drums!
My problem is, is that I know in my heart that I am going to have to leave this first band. It's just not in me any more...the worst part is that as far as band members go, we are ALL the best of friends, and spend lots of time together outside of music. We have been through quite a few lineup changes in the singer position, and I think my leaving would be the last straw and ultimately dismember the band. I have been thinking about it a lot, and I came up with the idea of just being straight with the guys and tell them my situation, and offer to stay with them until they can find a good replacement. I wouldn't want to leave these guys high and dry because that's "just not cool".
My goal here is to depart, without burning and bridges. Has anybody been in a similar situation? If so, how did you handle it and how did it work out for you in the end? I appreciate your time
My problem is, is that I know in my heart that I am going to have to leave this first band. It's just not in me any more...the worst part is that as far as band members go, we are ALL the best of friends, and spend lots of time together outside of music. We have been through quite a few lineup changes in the singer position, and I think my leaving would be the last straw and ultimately dismember the band. I have been thinking about it a lot, and I came up with the idea of just being straight with the guys and tell them my situation, and offer to stay with them until they can find a good replacement. I wouldn't want to leave these guys high and dry because that's "just not cool".
My goal here is to depart, without burning and bridges. Has anybody been in a similar situation? If so, how did you handle it and how did it work out for you in the end? I appreciate your time