If you play with the metronome instead of your bandmates, the feel of the music is lost. There's a certain push/pull in most music that makes it feel good, as well as a push/pull that occurs between the players, and playing with a metronome eliminates the possibility of that. Music stops "breathing", so to speak...
But, yeah...ask your bandmates. They should have their own answer.
There should be a push-pull, but sometimes it is too much push (speeding up) or too much pull (slowing down). A metronome keeps time in proper alignment. It no more stops "breathing" than correct tuning.
Yes and no. If the band's musicianship is high then the tempo can be manipulated like dynamics to better express the song - more the case with some genres/songs than others. At the highest levels playing metronomic time all the time is unsophisticated.
However, for many bands (often weekend warriors) playing with a metronome will sound stilted because, as Mike said, the players need to push and pull the drummer around. My band's keyboardist even complained about "machine time" when I was using a met to get initial starting tempos lol - a click would be a nightmare for him. So my band would sound far better without a click than with one - I have to adjust for them or it's a train wreck.
My job is to make them sound good so I adjust and occasionally make comments. I don't see my role as teaching them to play cleaner time - I'm not their Mum. If I was serious I would have worked harder on my own time and left long ago but they are nice people and I enjoy playing with them.
These are the tradeoffs people make. If you're serious and want to play music for a living then you work hard to make sure your own time is in order and find players who have done the same ... either that or you find a bunch of wild characters and try to become the next Nirvana
If you are consciously varying the time (as you said, if the band's musicianship is high), that's one thing. But there is such a thing as sloppy, lazy, incompetent playing, and it sometimes hides behind "I need to be creative and push and pull." I've heard terrific and terrible music made with and without a metronome. The only real way to tell if it works on not is to hear it or play it. And I have hear you band's playing and it's in the Lterrific" category.
The drummer's duties include steady, reliable time that fits the needs of the music and guides the band. Notice I did not say "perfect and unwavering time." But if it wavers, it should be with reason and purpose. Personally, I do not think any competent musician should object to playing with a metronome from time to time if someone in the band thinks they need it. I hate metronomes because they do distract me but the discipline is needed sometimes.
I have a metronome called a Beat Bug that fits in the ear is looks just like a Bluetooth. That may be one solution. Or connect it to one of those Butt Shaker things.
I recently worked out a way of setting tempos with a met, by quietly singing the busiest vocal line of the song before the count - if that feels comfortable then all will be well. Not much worse for a singer than to be forced to rush and be denied the ability to add nuance.
Cheers DMC. I think genre is important here. There's a school of thought that the most important thing is not perfect time but that, if the tempo varies, the band does it together.
To me, using a click in jazz or blues doesn't make sense. Certainly our keys player refers to BB King when justifying his dislike of metronomes but I know it's really just a defence because his time IS wobbly ... metronomes make him look bad and he juggles too many balls in life to go back and sort it out.
However, I have a responsibility to start the songs at the most comfortable tempo, and I haven't always gotten it right. The boys will play better time if my starting tempo and subsequent consistency is good - if I get it wrong, no one has the musical power to correct it. I know it's not ideal but I kind of enjoy the challenge and responsibility ... masochism?
Gigs can be challenging with the adrenaline and it's easy to "hear" tempos faster than they should be. I recently worked out a way of setting tempos with a met, by quietly singing the busiest vocal line of the song before the count - if that feels comfortable then all will be well. Not much worse for a singer than to be forced to rush and be denied the ability to add nuance.
I think the big disconnect is, no one is suggesting for musicians to play "sloppy". There's nothing better to me than a tight band that grooves. Nothing in there requires a met. No one's suggesting not to use one as a practice tool. But as a BAND practice tool, I think it hurts in the long run. The living breathing BAND needs to find it's own rhythm. Yep, that usually takes a lot of work and individual talent.
Dang!!! Thats some effective feedback. Thanks all.
OK, so is there an effective way to CALL IT when a serious time blunder occurs that wont hurt them emotionally. Since that seems to be the whole thing for them. Usually I stop, grab some eye contact with one or more of them (11 players) But, others insist "Just keeep playin" Those points simply suck.
I think I know the answer............But thanks anyway for chiming in.