So I'm looking for some other musicians to play with since leaving my last band and the other day I saw an ad that was titled "Looking for Drummer for gigs in Denton" and the ad pretty much stated what the title says... guy looking for a drummer to play gigs in Denton and a link to his reverbnation page... Denton is not a bad drive for me and I check his link out and decide that the guy has a decent voice (it was only him singing with guitar tracks) and so I sent him an email with ALL of my relevant information including about 5 links to videos of me playing...
The next day I get an email from him that says only this:
"Hey I LOVE your playing. Give me your phone number so I can talk to you."
I replied with a very courteous email saying that I hope he doesn't take offense, but I'd like a little bit more information before I give someone I don't know my only phone number. I also asked him if this was with a full band, as I only heard him singing to a guitar track on his demo, and if the gigs that he was talking about in the ad were were upcoming and if they were paying gigs or not (to which I also added the caveat of "I don't care one way or the other, but I'd like to know what I'm getting into").. he replied an hour later with
"are you only looking for paying gigs or the opportunity to join a starting band where you have creative input and the potential to do a lot of things?"
So i write one last email back to him pointing out that in my last reply I stated that whether the gigs were paid or not did not matter to me, I was only asking for some basic information about the project, and that I'm not going to feel bad for asking about the gigging situation since the original ad came off as pretty much he was looking for someone to play upcoming gigs with....
He hasn't replied back to me, which is no big deal since I pretty much wrote him off after his last reply...
I just wonder if I was wrong here? should I have given my number to a complete stranger before getting anymore relevant information? Is asking whether or not the gigs are paid or not taboo to original musicians? Just wondering if this is the normal kind of response to expect from Craigslist ads from those of you who have used it to find musical projects...
The next day I get an email from him that says only this:
"Hey I LOVE your playing. Give me your phone number so I can talk to you."
I replied with a very courteous email saying that I hope he doesn't take offense, but I'd like a little bit more information before I give someone I don't know my only phone number. I also asked him if this was with a full band, as I only heard him singing to a guitar track on his demo, and if the gigs that he was talking about in the ad were were upcoming and if they were paying gigs or not (to which I also added the caveat of "I don't care one way or the other, but I'd like to know what I'm getting into").. he replied an hour later with
"are you only looking for paying gigs or the opportunity to join a starting band where you have creative input and the potential to do a lot of things?"
So i write one last email back to him pointing out that in my last reply I stated that whether the gigs were paid or not did not matter to me, I was only asking for some basic information about the project, and that I'm not going to feel bad for asking about the gigging situation since the original ad came off as pretty much he was looking for someone to play upcoming gigs with....
He hasn't replied back to me, which is no big deal since I pretty much wrote him off after his last reply...
I just wonder if I was wrong here? should I have given my number to a complete stranger before getting anymore relevant information? Is asking whether or not the gigs are paid or not taboo to original musicians? Just wondering if this is the normal kind of response to expect from Craigslist ads from those of you who have used it to find musical projects...