Saw your thread, read it; thanks....good sound samples too. Not bad for 4 mics with kick, snare and 2 overheads.
Are you capturing 2 rack and 1 floor tom?
To try to summarize...
Since I'm not recording with other musicians in the same room, I use two large condensers to capture a stereo image the ambient sound. I then add dynamic mics (kick, snare) to bring out the feature instruments. This works really well if all you're doing is recording drums (No bass/guitar/etc bleeding in).
Most mixing is self-mixing. It forces me to learn to be a real drummer and play the toms louder/quieter depending on the results I desire. It also forces me to position the mics correctly. I can treat the LDCs with EQ and compression to nudge the tom/cymbal ratio a bit, but overall, it's exactly what the kit sounds like in the room.
Live mic'ing/recording is a bit different. To aid in isolation, sound guys mic everything in close proximity and attempt to re-create the ambient sound from the constituent tracks. LDC overheads are replaced with highly directional SDC's that tend to excel at picking up high frequencies (cymbals).
Honestly, there's no right/wrong way. Either philosophy works. I prefer the former over the latter as it's simpler and easier on me. I can invest in fewer, higher quality, mics. I don't have to deal with phase across 8 tracks or other bizarro sonic mayhem. I only need 4 stands and 4 cables (no rats nest). I can spend more time playing and recording and less time fiddling with a bunch of shi....gear.
Re: Toms. I own an 8/10/12 RT and 2x16 FT's. Kick is a 22". Snares vary (LB417, LM404, LS401). I use various configurations depending on what I need or what mood I'm in. At this exact moment, I'm 12/16/22/LB417.