Im about as new to drumming as you! And theres only one true piece of info i can give you, and that is to learn real music asap. When you get later down the line, actual songs are notated in magazines as Musical notes.
Ive paid for one drum lesson so far, and him pursuading me to go down that route has opend up sooo many more beats, and i couldnt ever understand tabbed music anyway, so i guess im biased