I hate when people help carry stuff to my car, its always in the wrong order of packing the car. When they help load in same thing they plop the bass drum down before the rug etc. I never ask or want help. once in while, my guitar player will grab my cymbal bag or pedal bag and leave it on a sidewalk without me knowing. Last weekend at gig, we had to wait for the staff to move a table, i loaded all my gear into the hotel lobby. When they were ready for us i knew the band would help because their stuff was already piled out there. Long story short, my bass player dropped my LM400 snare on the concrete patio. Luckily i have been using a Ludwig student backpack style case ( i dont know why) and it was padded enough that nothing happened,