I was married in 1985. By 1990 we had two kids. I stopped playing a few years before the kids were born. During that time I helped with every aspect of raising them. I gutted and remodeled two homes. I spent all of my free time working on things that would be good for my family. One of the homes is a vacation home that we bought in a family resort that has programs that are designed to benefit children. We provided every opportunity for our children. A few years ago my kids had grown to a point that they didn't need as much attention. Daughter in collage and son in the army. I was bored and I started to drink a lot. I knew that I had to do something. I stopped my drinking to excess and I woodshedded with my kit for a while. I began to play with bands again. I didn't cheat on my wife or do anything that was inappropriate. I simply practiced and played with two bands. My wife hates the fact that I play. She won't even speak to me much any more. She resents my taking some time for me. I'm 52 years old and I don't know how much longer I will be able to play. I made the decision to play anyway. You will have to make your own decision based on your personal situation. In my case drumming is enriching my life. If my wife can't understand that then that is her problem. You have to choose!