Oh, this person ain't quiet. He's about the loudest. But yeah, I experience those ultra quiet demands at jams. He just doesn't do more than the beat so no eyes leave the guitar players.
I'm pretty sensitive about the quiet topic. Caused by a few guit/keys players. They would say nothing to the longer established drummers bashing away at will and then check me on volume because I'm newerto the scene.
Uh, then how about I just don't play and you can deal with the actual loud drummers instead? Or maybe you just don't have a drummer at all?
Got really bored with the entitled guitar player mentality. It's why I'm backing off of drums for the past year.
As a drummer, i'll try to cooperate. And if you pay me and you're the leader at an actual gig, I'll do what you want. But if it's a house jam? Play your way and I'll play mine. I'm not as loud as that guy watching and waiting to play and will gladly let you deal with him instead of me.
I'm not a loud drummer, in fact I went out of my way to point out the volume of a few examples for comparison. It's just that I got sensitive because I tried to compromise and saw the double standard.
For 1 guitar player there is no quiet drummer that's quiet enough, so he's an extreme. For another he expects a drummer at non-paid jams to play to his desires instead of letting all players just play how they want in the same way he is. Then there's the couple who get loud, realize it and then call out the whole group for being loud.
My quoted statement is about guy who doesn't really have flair but is preferred by a few for his simplicity and not stealing any show. But he's damn loud. No control over his rimshots. He starts out moderate and before you know it he's just shy of starting a rimshot at 90 degrees from the head. No BS. I've focused on it. But he just plays the groove and if he hasn't had too much drink he doesn't change timing too much. He's solid usually.
Rant over...for now.