I've been pondering this for a while now and I've realized that the sound we are enjoying from the V kits, is what you would get from an acoustic kit after running the notes through full mics and post. If you spend enough time on a v-kit your ear will get used to (get spoiled by) that post-production studio drum sound.Getting equivalent sound quality that I was used to from ekits in such an easy manner is an ongoing issue though. Endless research, disappointing purchases etc.
I finally gave up on tweaking/purchasing my acoustic kit to sound like "album drums". Chances are we both have great cymbals that would sound super clean if we were monitoring ourselves in a full studio.
To mitigate the V sounds spoiling my acoustic drumming experience I set up a few Shure mics on my acoustic kit and monitor myself though IEM.having to wear headphones to reduce the natural kit volume does seem to defeat the object of acoustic kits-
So my ears are protected, but not plugged. And the really nice part is that my modest mic array produces a good image and smooths out the noise like I'm listening from 30 feet away.