OrangeAgent27
Silver Member
Dude, I'll be honest. I think you just like STUFF. Nothing wrong with that, not at all. But at some point you gotta stop worrying about buying stuff and start working on your stuff. Ya dig?
Dude, I'll be honest. I think you just like STUFF. Nothing wrong with that, not at all. But at some point you gotta stop worrying about buying stuff and start working on your stuff. Ya dig?
\ I think he spends more time looking at his stuff than playing it...just my opinion.
Steve B
I have literally tried everything to kiss-ass a bit,
Don't "kiss arse"....just explain. Show him your passion for the instrument. Best way to do this is to practice and improve.....not by blowing a fortune by buying new shit every 15 minutes.
I know he won't let you play at home, and I know that, that is difficult. But so what......there are ways around it. Grab a pad and a pair of sticks. Pay for some lessons and play your teachers kit there. Don't tell me you can't do that? Or find a friend with a basement and slip him some coin to practice there....even once or twice a week.
At the moment, your old man is seeing your approach to drumming much like the forum members here. We don't think you're particularly serious....and we don't even know you. What hope has a man who has known you from birth got? He's seeing a kid who 'says' he's keen, but doesn't really display much by way of showing any real desire to improve. Show him that this actually means something to you, by doing everything you can to improve.....kit or no kit, there's plenty you can work on in the meantime. Who knows.......once he sees that this is something that inspires you, as opposed to this weeks new trend, he may re-evaluate his position and relent.
Change your old man's mindset.....it can be done, but I reckon you'll have to change your own first.
Ah, the old unsupportive parent. I'm glad to have never known the pain. I really don't know what to say to try to help except that, considering everything that you just said as well as everything previously stated by myself and almost every member of this board, now is a very bad time to buy a new kit. Possibly the worst time ever.
What happens when you get your $2000+ instrument home and your dad just goes and takes it away? Then what? Will you be better off? No, you'll have just sunk a small fortune into something you can't even use.
Instead, focus on school as priority numbers one, two, and three. Find a secret place to get away and just hit the pad. Repeat until you move out. By then you'll have a better idea of what you want not only out of a kit, but also out of your life.
Okay...
Lets see if by some odd chance getting some new blood into this is going to help at all, one 15 year old to another.
I play at 3 masses at church on every Sunday. My Saturdays are usually taken up by weddings that I play for, sometimes the ceremony, sometimes the reception, a lot of times both. I'v played in clubs and bars i shouldn't be allowed to get into, and yet my next door neighbor, (who owns the local music school), argues to get me in and be allowed to play... Would i love a 2500$ kit, yes. Do I own one? No. I'm playing my $350 off-brand kit, and, as of right now, have no problems doing so. The best part of the kit are the hats. 13" new beats. The crash and ride (Thats right, I only have one of each, hard to imagine, isn't it, Joey?) are both of Zildjians lower lines... I am perfectly content with what I currently play. And now were talking about "stealing" parents cars because they're un supportive? This has gone on much to long.
I'v seen both your kit and your current cymbal lineup. I'd kill for what you have now, don't go looking for more, because you think what your playing isn't good enough. The best way to sound better is to play better.
Then again, I'm just repeating what everyone else has said. But is one more person's opinion gonna kill anyone? I hope not.
Im a freshman in high school. Collage is just four years down the road, and it's not cheap. I don't want to be one of the people that you read about because they owe a crap-load and student loans. I have eyed new setups, but i dont NEED one, slowly, im starting to get new cymbals, but my drums make noise when I hit them, so why should i spend money on new ones that do exactly the same thing?
No, he thing is is that it's MY money. So he payed for HIS car with HIS money. I payed for MY drums with MY money. I will take the drums when I get them and put them into his car and leave.
Nice little taste of his own medicine...
But, you live under HIS roof, oppressive as you may think it is. Follow the rules, ride it out, try to keep a good relationship going with him...hopefully you both can grow in your respective roles as father and son, and have a better relationship when you become an adult...
Your parents aren't covering college for you?
Man you're lucky, although you seem to have trouble at home, there are several experienced grown ups (even parents themselves maybe) who are giving advice to you for
free on this board.
My advice is just this: Listen to these advices!!
That's what he yells. "This is MY house, I make the rules, and no matter how hard you defy and rebel against me I will win this game!"
BTW: Wat does your "Signature" mean?
I don't want to sound like an A-Hole right now, but I WORK for what I have. Why don't you take the cash you get from the Weddings, bars, clubs, etc... and invest in a better setup?