There’s something about the stacatto nature of the drum that makes me want to fill all of that space. Also insecurity about not knowing how to fill up that space when it’s actually needed. Just making your point that it’s probably a more advanced skill.Great post we can all relate to.
I think that we think we suck because we focus on the quarter note when we are unsure.
We are THE ONLY PEOPLE who think it sucks focusing on the quarter note, like it's something to be ashamed of. Meanwhile, that's exactly why you got asked to play. Drummers need to understand that.
The maturity I was talking about...a lot of that came from the realization that SPACE SOUNDS SO GREAT. It's easier too. So less notes sound better than more notes generally speaking in lyric based music, not music based music. And it's easier and sounds better. So why do I hamstring myself by doing 32nd notes with my forehead on the snare? When space is what the other musicians crave? Because we think in terms of "lead drums", instead of knowing the role of the drums in a band. We need to create space so the sweeter sounding instruments can fill it up.
We don't highlight the frame of the car. It serves a hidden function. Same with drumming. (Applies to me, not everyone)
Why do we shy away from space? I think it's a security thing. IOW, if I am secure that space is great, I don't feel the need to fill it up. Unless it would elevate the song. It's great to hear breathing room.