That choice shouldn't even be on the sound man's radar. The sound of your drum is nobody's business but yours and the band you play with. If you don't know what you're doing, then don't get up there until you do.
Here's what I have never understood about this discussion.
1. Band arrives on stage with a particular sound.
2. Sound man amplifies THAT sound.
What's the issue other than some sound men want more than they're supposed to have? IMO it isn't the sound man's job to decide anything of an artistic nature, and even relatively small things like tunings falls under that. Unfortunately a large number of soundmen see themselves as the artistic consultants of the band, and a lot of bands unfortunately allow that. However, I truly thinks this irritates solid pro sound men who want to work with you in a more collaborative manner.
Once again/// a good pro sound man wants you to tell him what your sound is. If you have no clue about that, isn't that the equivalent of pretty much showing up to the gig without sticks?
I agree with this but to cut some sound guys a little slack, most of them don't really want to change your sound. I've played in a few clubs where without reinforcement and some compensation for the issues of the room, I had to alter my tuning and muffling to sound as good as possible in a particular room.
I think this is usually what happens. The errant sound man that oversteps his role is not as common.