So I've had about four or five drum lessons so far after being self taught for a long time. My teacher has had me working through stick control, practicing with different dynamics, and using legato, staccato, and Moeller. He also wants me to apply them on the drum set. Easy enough. The problem is he hasn't really even broken down how to do those types of strokes. He has basically just demonstrated the strokes, and then says for me to play it. I need more detail than that. He also makes me try to keep up with him while playing rudiments, and it's a jumbled mess because he's playing two or three times faster than me and I just can't keep up. If I can keep up, I'm ridiculously tense in my forearms and wrists. He tells me stay loose during this process, but I physically can't because my muscles are basically being tortured. Then we get on the kit to practice Moeller with grooves, again at much faster tempos than I can play. At the end of this week's lesson he says "I just don't know what to do with you man, maybe you'll wow me one day and actually be able to do it." It made me want to give up right then. Like I said for techniques, I need more than "I just played it, now you play it", with not much more explanation than that. As for speed, I've more or less always heard to go slow and steady til it feels natural, then bump up the tempo. Any opinions on what I should do? I just feel so discouraged, and am thinking about going back to online lessons.