You learn the most from the tough gigs.
Well said!The Professor himself (Neil Peart) admits he blew a very high-profile gig (the first Buddy Rich memorial concert which was filled with legendary musos) when he couldn’t hear the band. It happens to everyone!
What defines winners is persistence and pushing through self-imposed limitations. Don’t let this gig define you as a musician. Learn from it and grow!
I agree. A simple conversation can help to mitigate this issue again. Now, there is a very high chance your band mates are not rational adults (because most are not lol) so you may have to get creative haha. Taking a few minutes to reevaluate placement (your own as well as the amps) can help greatly but isn't always a time luxury we all have during a rushed gig.This volume/sound/monitors/no monitors situation seems fairly conceived of as a "band problem" rather than the drummer's problem. If OP wants to eliminate risk he can go with roncadillac's excellent personal solution, but it is worth discussing the problem with the band and see if members want to invest in a more general solution (mixer to in-ears and/or a PA system, for example) that would help everyone. Or aim the amps differently.
Recently I sat in for a rehearsal with a band. Knew nothing of the songs they play and used their regular drummers kit. It happens that he took the hats with him so I used a tambourine as hats.
I did the best as I could, couldn't hear everyone but could see the bass players foot and his fingers. I watched for cues from the keyboardist (he's the leader it seems) and I made it through about 8 songs, 4 of which I'd never heard before.
All the guys except the lead guitarist seemed ok with how I was doing. The guitarist kept saying "you never heard THIS song before?" as if I were a dummy. I'm not much of a country guy and let him know it on the last song. He shut up.
Keep plugging away. You were put into a real tough place. Some practice with the band would have certainly helped.
Yes. Know the material as completely as possible, down to every intro, outro and every note in between. That way, if anything isn’t good (e.g., monitor mix, sound of kit at venue, nervous singer, quiet guitarist, etc.) it won’t matter to the music because you have your part mastered.I am playing out for the first time tomorrow and I am really, really nervous about it.