Great story Matt!!Since I'm the new guy maybe there's something you might want to say in private, I replied. But if this isn't fixed you'll have 2 positions where the part is missing. Then I took out and counted the 200 euro I always kept in my wallet for bonehead emergencies like that one where it might be necessary to end an association if the heat gets turned up. Now I wasn't going to quit, but it wouldn't have surprised to see older guys ditch me and hire a bad player their own age just to cover for their own guy...music issues aside (and yes this even happens with excellent players who decide the age pecking order is more important than the music itself.).
I loved it.
I once had a similar issue. The bass player would hit a bottle in-between sets, and by the 4th set, he was plowed, and it made it impossible to keep time with the guy speeding up and slowing down. And of course, I got blamed for not keeping time. I was 25 at the time, and everyone else was well over 40. So the age thing was an issue.
Eventually, after one bad night of drinking, I got fired.
I even said to the very sober guitar player "so, I'm getting fired for keeping too good of time?" and he said "yes".
But given the bass player was also the leader, not much I could do. Although it wasn't all bad. I made nice stack of cash over the months we had been together, and I was going to quit in a couple of weeks anyway since I was moving.