Not sure how to feel...

incrementalg said:
I’d be really ticked off if someone I didn’t know took it upon themselves to start playing my set. If he wanted to play, he should’ve taken the effort to move his own kit to a gig that night.
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This!
You just up and sit at my kit and start playing, we gonna have issues. If the rest of the band didn't back me, that would've been my first & last night with them.

Not OK.
 
WTF???!!!??? That IS NOT OK!!!
If you take my kit for a ride without permission you’ll get similar treatment
( maybe) as if you took my vehicle for a ride without permission!

And as far as the other part to your experience with the recording of material?
DONT WALK …..RUN away from this band and situation !
 
4piece4peace said:
At a gig with a new band I just joined this weekend I got up from my kit briefly while the singer/guitarist was doing a solo bit. Then, a drummer that the band knows from the past got behind my kit and just started jamming with the band. I have never even met this guy before. Not sure if this was rude or not even thought my instinct tells me that it is. Thoughts?
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RUDE in my opinion.

Drummer_D
 
Ironically you already have a recommendation in mind to take your place, some nice karma there, haha
 
4piece4peace said:
At a gig with a new band I just joined this weekend I got up from my kit briefly while the singer/guitarist was doing a solo bit. Then, a drummer that the band knows from the past got behind my kit and just started jamming with the band. I have never even met this guy before. Not sure if this was rude or not even thought my instinct tells me that it is. Thoughts?
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Wow, I would not have handled that well. Now, I would do my best as to not make a scene so the new band doesn't look bad BUT I certainly wouldn't just let that go. A few weeks back I played a gig where the opening band's drummer broke his pedal while I stepped out of the room for a moment and he just took mine without asking. To make matters worse, (I waited until the end of their set to say something) when I approached him to say something I caught him red handed trying to put his old broken pedal back with my gear and make off with my pedal. Maybe it was the several shots of Jameson or my general 'take no crap' demeanor but I really laid into this kid (I say kid, he is mid twenties).... To the point that he literally started crying, had a full blown panic attack, and ran out of the room leaving all his gear behind and calling in his parents to come pick everything up. He just kept saying "wait, this isn't cool? We aren't cool? This isn't cool?" My response, that was so full of profuse use of the F word that I'm not even sure it could be considered a proper sentence, included me 'explaining' how this was an amateur move on his part. I think I even called him a jabroni.

It felt great. Don't touch my crap without asking. Get a job and buy nicer gear. More importantly, maintain the gear you have regardless of value.

His name is Luke, plays in a Daytona Beach FL band called "Awaystead". Luke, if you are a member here.....

.... Don't touch my crap you amateur jabroni.
 
roncadillac said:
Wow, I would not have handled that well. Now, I would do my best as to not make a scene so the new band doesn't look bad BUT I certainly wouldn't just let that go. A few weeks back I played a gig where the opening band's drummer broke his pedal while I stepped out of the room for a moment and he just took mine without asking. To make matters worse, (I waited until the end of their set to say something) when I approached him to say something I caught him red handed trying to put his old broken pedal back with my gear and make off with my pedal. Maybe it was the several shots of Jameson or my general 'take no crap' demeanor but I really laid into this kid (I say kid, he is mid twenties).... To the point that he literally started crying, had a full blown panic attack, and ran out of the room leaving all his gear behind and calling in his parents to come pick everything up. He just kept saying "wait, this isn't cool? We aren't cool? This isn't cool?" My response, that was so full of profuse use of the F word that I'm not even sure it could be considered a proper sentence, included me 'explaining' how this was an amateur move on his part. I think I even called him a jabroni.

It felt great. Don't touch my crap without asking. Get a job and buy nicer gear. More importantly, maintain the gear you have regardless of value.
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Damn that's rough. Good thing you caught him in time before he was off with your pedal.
 
roncadillac said:
Wow, I would not have handled that well. Now, I would do my best as to not make a scene so the new band doesn't look bad BUT I certainly wouldn't just let that go. A few weeks back I played a gig where the opening band's drummer broke his pedal while I stepped out of the room for a moment and he just took mine without asking. To make matters worse, (I waited until the end of their set to say something) when I approached him to say something I caught him red handed trying to put his old broken pedal back with my gear and make off with my pedal. Maybe it was the several shots of Jameson or my general 'take no crap' demeanor but I really laid into this kid (I say kid, he is mid twenties).... To the point that he literally started crying, had a full blown panic attack, and ran out of the room leaving all his gear behind and calling in his parents to come pick everything up. He just kept saying "wait, this isn't cool? We aren't cool? This isn't cool?" My response, that was so full of profuse use of the F word that I'm not even sure it could be considered a proper sentence, included me 'explaining' how this was an amateur move on his part. I think I even called him a jabroni.

It felt great. Don't touch my crap without asking. Get a job and buy nicer gear. More importantly, maintain the gear you have regardless of value.

His name is Luke, plays in a Daytona Beach FL band called "Awaystead". Luke, if you are a member here.....

.... Don't touch my crap you amateur jabroni.
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there are not enough like emoji's for this post!!!
 
4piece4peace said:
Thanks for the replies everyone. Interestingly enough I just received a Slack message from the band leader that He plans on recording a new album in June and expects us each to pitch in $1400 for the recording and then give us albums to sell ourselves. Major red flag here for me. he already had the material written and has been dictating how he wants the drum parts played. I'm out.
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My reply would consist of seven letters in a formation of four and three.
 
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roncadillac said:
Wow, I would not have handled that well. Now, I would do my best as to not make a scene so the new band doesn't look bad BUT I certainly wouldn't just let that go. A few weeks back I played a gig where the opening band's drummer broke his pedal while I stepped out of the room for a moment and he just took mine without asking. To make matters worse, (I waited until the end of their set to say something) when I approached him to say something I caught him red handed trying to put his old broken pedal back with my gear and make off with my pedal. Maybe it was the several shots of Jameson or my general 'take no crap' demeanor but I really laid into this kid (I say kid, he is mid twenties).... To the point that he literally started crying, had a full blown panic attack, and ran out of the room leaving all his gear behind and calling in his parents to come pick everything up. He just kept saying "wait, this isn't cool? We aren't cool? This isn't cool?" My response, that was so full of profuse use of the F word that I'm not even sure it could be considered a proper sentence, included me 'explaining' how this was an amateur move on his part. I think I even called him a jabroni.

It felt great. Don't touch my crap without asking. Get a job and buy nicer gear. More importantly, maintain the gear you have regardless of value.

His name is Luke, plays in a Daytona Beach FL band called "Awaystead". Luke, if you are a member here.....

.... Don't touch my crap you amateur jabroni.
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Don't think you handled that badly at all, the little shit was lucky he got off with verbals, catching somebody stealing your stuff is carte blanche to render them physically incapable of being a threat. No different to someone in your car or your home.

We've got a wedding in September with another band (happened once in all the years I've done em but they were pros like us) and they've asked to use our PA. Now you don't take a booking unless you have the gear to do it. No PA makes me think no backline either and all kinds of alarms are going off. It's a hard no from us. Really hope these freeloaders aren't silly enough to come begging on the day.

@4piece4peace you're not alone here. The music business is littered with goldbrickers and cretins (think Grandpa Joe from Willy Wonka!) at every turn. Only way to cope is have skin thicker than a rhino and treat these people with the contempt they deserve.
 
I guess thats one way for your band mates to declare their lack of professionalism.

I let a kid play my set and in seconds, dead dented ambassadors.

Never again.

I might rent a set from a shop for someone given that they pre-pay and I make my standard hourly to rent/transport/setup/teardown but once they see the proposed cost, I think they would decline.

No last minute equipment sharing for me...unless its someone I've know for decades and implicitly trust.
 
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This dude is obviously not an actual drummer. Any real drummer knows that you don't do that. Like, I can't even imagine sitting down at another drummer's kit, just sitting not even playing, without their permission. It's on the same level as flirting with a woman when you know she is married and her husband is sitting right there. Not cool man. If your band mates did nothing and in hindsight still think it was no big deal, then I would be looking for different people to jam with as well.
 
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