Youtube video: Link pls.Ha! I play with incredible touch. See my YouTube video on head preservation.
Really, I just changed my batter heads again a few days ago. They'll look nice and broken in soon enough.
Also question about your tom mount - is it just a standard snare/tom stand?
I had that set up for like 7 years and I found these things called "little booty shakers" that attach to snare stand with velcro and basically suspend the tom - I was absolutely SHOCKED how big of a difference it made. I have pretty good relationship with those cats and I'm sure I can get them to send you a set - let me know. Probably the easiest little drum sound hack I've ever run across -I have them on all my snare/tom stands now - even for my actual snares.
Here's a video a friend of mine made on them (Also - he's a tuning and drum tech PRO - so I know you don't like youtube tunings guys...but there's no one better on the planet for tuning and tech stuff):