In an ICU 2500 miles away, and I don’t have the emotional skills to process this
Sure you do. You just haven't exercised them yet.I don’t have the emotional skills to process this
Sure you do. You just haven't exercised them yet.
I don't mean to sound crass, but everybody dies and you can't do anything about it. I was on my way home (16 hour drive) to see my sister as she lay dying. I didn't make it home in time. She 'laid on her bed dying' twice prior to the final event and made dramatic (but only month-long) recoveries both times. You just don't know.
My 87 year-old dad lay dying in the hospital. For three days. All five of us kids got to visit him for all three days. He passed in the middle of the night with no visitors. Did he not want spectators at his passing?
My cancer-ridden sister-in-law lay dying for less than 24 hours. She didn't pass until everybody got to visit and was surrounded by family.
You just don't know. Like @jda said, if travel is out of the question, you might try a phone call.
In any case, you can process this. It's gonna be tough walking a bumpy road you've never traveled before. But whatever the outcome, don't beat yourself up. Should'a/could'a/would'a wont fix anything.
I'll keep you and your father in my prayers.
My dad had a heart attack this summer not even dying the old coot, but we went anyway (only 1800 miles, but they don't live anywhere near an airport). Seriously, miserable experience with a toddler. They had dogs, but my toddler was afraid of dogs. They didn't even bother to tie them up, had the dogs sit under the kitchen table while we were eating, meanwhile the toddler was crying the whole time, and the dogs just kept barking. My mother just sat and binge watched DVDs. The few times we got away from the dogs and he started to play they proceeded to call him a brat. I think they were just looking for an excuse to justify their miserable parenting, because I'm taking way better care of my kids.
No one has these skills until it happens.In an ICU 2500 miles away, and I don’t have the emotional skills to process this
No one has these skills until it happens.
You will have major regrets for the rest of your life if you don’t go see him and tell him, “I will miss you.”
If he is conscious, he misses you right now.
I think they just wanted to see me kiss their tails over the little piece of dirt they own. It is pretty tough when my in-laws love the kids so much, and as a surprise cleaned our house while we were away.Sounds like your mom is expecting you to process her feelings for her