Agree with this 100%. Playing a straight 4 beat to a metronome can get boring ( not to say it’s no a helpful tool). Along with your other thread about fills , it’s a matter of time and practice . Start slow on straight 4 tunes at a comfortable BPM that you can handle. Pick a few songs or music that you enjoy . And don’t attempt any fills until you can play the beat straight through to the end in time . You can break songs down and work on fills and simplify them however you like as long as they fit the music and your keeping time . If you get frustrated doing that you can switch back to playing straight 4 through the music . It’s a matter of putting in the time and practice . I’m by no means a pro or a novice. I’m an intermediate player at best . But I’ve always had one strong suit..... impeccable timing, which I attribute to growing up in a musical family where everyone .... 7 of us played at least two instruments growing up and took lessons to various degrees . We all sang in school and church choir and played in band and or orchestra. No doubt this attributed to my sense of time but when I switched to percussionand drums from sax and clarinet at around 13 or 14 I was frustrated because my body wouldn’t do what the mind was telling it . I would play 4/4 classic rock songs for hours with no fills , then slowly added fills that fit , then eventually was able to completely cover songs nearly to a T. All without reading music . At about 15 I started lessons for two years or so but stopped around age18, big mistake but paying bills and school and two jobs put a halt to lessons. Find a decent teacher and take lessons if feasible . If not ,..... no worries plenty of drummers are self taught and doing wonderfully. All depends how far you wanna take it . Point is ....... start slow ,..... walk before you run , and stick with it . If you love it as I did and still do you’ll make it through . If you put the work and time in , like in anything else , you’ll see results and that will push you further and bring you to the next level and teach you that progress can be made . As stated in your other thread about fills, play with others where and when you can also . I was fortunate that my older brother ( god rest his soul) made the switch to guitars from tuba and trumpet two years before I switched from brass and woodwinds to drums . I had a live in jam partner and human metronome who went on to become one of the best guitarists I’ve ever known In my life( played / practicedfor hours EVERY day ) . That made it even easier and more fun for my progression as a drummer . Keep pushing , keep grinding , it may come fast or slow but rest assured it will come . Best of luck .Two things.
1) If you're using stuff with super solid time, like hip hop, that's basically just as good as a metronome, if not better because it also has musical context. You're totally on a good track practicing to stuff like that. I also like to make my own loops or use things like "dance" music that is extremely simple with a solid consistent meter.
2) As you might infer from above, lots and lots and lots of music was not recorded to a metronome and it in itself does not have perfect beat, so even if you're on, you might still sound off. It's usually best to avoid this type of stuff.
Onto your question, disregarding what I just wrote.
Count. Get a solid count going in your head, or even out-loud BEFORE you start to play along. The key is to keep that count going through your fills so when you come back in, you're hitting the one. I recommend 8th note count to start with.
It doesnt happen to me on guitar.. i just started playing giitar tooa nd can play perfectly to a metronome. I just get off on drums its weird maybe i just get too tired or somethjnfThis happens to everyone starting out.
The cure is to practice with a metronome at very slow tempos and build up speed slowly.
This ingrains a sense of time to your playing and helps you understand what it feels like to play consistently at a tempo.