One of my bands it learning the live version of Boderline by Madonna. It’s from the 2008 Sticky and Sweet tour where she does it as a punk rock song. After some arguing at rehearsal I realized the song starts on the upbeat of 4 and the snare is playing quarters with the kick on the offbeat. The songs just starts with a big chord and kick and snare on the upbeat. I hear this as the downbeat and I have been sitting here for an hour starting this song over and over, trying to hear it the correct way. I just can’t do it. I know enough about music that I can count it off in my head and sing it correctly. I just can’t hear it correctly when I listen to it. Does anyone have any advice on this?