That wouldn't be so bad, I always thought it would be a series of disappointments!Life is one big disappointment until you achieve the sweet release of death.
Well said, Otto. I have that line "anyone can achieve their dreams if they try hard enough!". It's a false dream because there's only so much room at the top, and it's a dream that's embittered many people once they find out too late that they were sold a pup.I believe our biggest mistake is to buy into an idea that everyone can be sucessful in a rarified resource environment without the emotion of fear being mitigated in some way. Once we stop thinking the carrot of "success" is so golden, then we can stop accepting the stick of needing a jobs security to deal with failure.
Drop the idea of sucess and failure and you are left with what matters...the joy of living your day.
Would be great if i could practice(er...implement...should remeber whom Im speaking to) that bit of preaching.
I agree with all of this. I was glad to have come to this realization fairly early. I only spent about 5 years really chasing the rock star dream. Toward the end of those 5 years, I was playing in a band that had some notoriety and did some touring with other bands that were bigger, and in that time, I saw "the biz" side to this whole rock thing and I really didn't care for it (of course, if records were flying off the shelves and I had an island in the Bahamas, I might feel different).Well said, Otto. I have that line "anyone can achieve their dreams if they try hard enough!". It's a false dream because there's only so much room at the top, and it's a dream that's embittered many people once they find out too late that they were sold a pup.
Life is a pyramid, with a tiny number of people at the top standing on the shoulders of those below.
If anyone could do it, they would. Simple fact is that luck plays a major part once the basics of learning, effort, networking and talent have been ticked off.
+1. I actually played and taught for for a living for 6 years then I realized I'd be happier not doing it for a living. 20+ years later - still delighted I made the switch and wouldn't wish to go back.....The reality is that I'm happy to work a day job that frees me up to play whatever I want and with whoever I want (or whoever will have me!). I don't need to worry about growing bitter about opportunities lost, power struggles, or money issues. I'm pretty sure I'll be able to approach drumming with the youthful enthusiasm I had as a youth until I'm not youthful enough to breathe anymore.Gotta like that!
Most of us here have dreamed of being a full time musician. Some of us want to be rock stars, and some of us would be happy giving lessons and gigging on the weekends, as long as we were able to pay the bills. I'm about to turn 40 in a little over a month and I have come to the conclusion that my dream is dead. I don't have any asperations to become a rock star, but I always wanted to play for a living. I've just never been good enough. 30 years of practicing and I still suck. I'm probably good enough now that I could play with a small touring band, I'm just too old to sleep in a van with a buch of kids. I just don't know how to resign myself to the fact that I'm going to have to come into this soul sucking day job for the rest of my life. I know I should be grateful that I have a job. I know I should be grateful that I get to play as much as I do, being as bad as I am. To me, coming to work is a black cloud that hangs over my whole life. I find myself unable to enjoy myself when I am off work because the though of going back to my job almost makes me ill. It's not that bad of a job. I shove papers around my desk for the government. I could be digging ditches or flipping burgers. The "Occupy" people around the world are protesting because they don't have what I have. I talked to my pastor about it, and he said it's because I'm an artist. Punching a time clock and doing useless busy work just leaves me feeling empy. I get angry when I think about how much time I spend at work. Between the commute, and lunch, it's 11 hours a day. That's 11 hours a day that have nothing to do with my life and I will never get back. I'm in three bands right now and a fourth and fifth want me to join. I just don't have time and it makes me sick that I have to give up what I love just to pay the bills. I need to quit one of the bands I'm already in so I can see my wife occasionally. But, I don't want to be lying on my death bed and think about how I gave up what drumming oportunities I had in this short life. I feel like a loser because I can't "grow up" and be content going to work and living a "normal" life. I've thought about quiting my job and trying to teach and play for a living, but I just don't think I'm good enough. On top of my playing deficiencies, I'm pretty introverted. The whole social, networking part of it would be hard for me. It just feels to irresponsible. I just don't know how to cope with the fact that I don't have any hopes or dreams anymore. What do I do now?
Sure. When he starts paying the bills, the mortgage and feeding and clothing the kids, perhaps. Until then, he's not much help at all is he?
I get that mate, but how do you actually achieve that whilst scrounging it in the back of the van, refusing to work because it'll impede on you following your dream?If a person is a follower of Jesus God does make sure all the bills get paid and the believers family is taken care of in every way. I can attest to this in my own life. Does that mean that if a person follows God that their not going to have any problems? Of course not. What it means is that God will get you through any problem you have and that the problem will not last forever. "Everything works for the good of those who love the Lord".
I get that mate, but how do you actually achieve that whilst scrounging it in the back of the van, refusing to work because it'll impede on you following your dream?
Are you telling me god's gonna fork out the coin? Or is it just possible you may have to forsake something in order to be accountable to your family and/or financial obligations?
It's a nice theory and I don't disagree point blank, but it sure leaves a lot of questions unanswered, a lot of lose ends.....and sure relies on god going above and beyond the call of duty don't you think? But hey, if you figure out a way of getting god to come to the party and cough up the cash whilst I lay about in my van choosing not to work because I'm waiting to "break the big time", be sure to let me know........I'm all ears.
Dude, I think I saw you playing with Mingo Fishtrap a few times in Denton... in '96 -99'. You were already great back then, you can definitely do it - very well! (and it's great to see you here)This doesn't make me feel like I'm left behind, it just lets me know that if they can do it, so can I.