Give something in the 5B range a go. The 5B has always been my favorite size. It's weighty enough for easy power but agile enough for deft dynamics. It adapts gracefully to almost any style.My inability to retire cymbals is probably due to stick choice - 5A (now), 7A and 85A (past). I'm thinking about moving up to bigger sizes due to the contemporary stuff I want to play. And I'm finding heavier playing feels more therapeutic than light stuff. Maybe it's a temporary thing.