Us ancient fossils started with Walk Don't Run by the Ventures. Easy kick and snare 1/8th note cymbal.
but you don't need to play along with something, necessarily, until you know some basic time keeping.
a quick 'lesson'
Try kick playing 1-2-3-4, snare on 2 and 4 , and these Cymbal flows: 1 2 3 4 that's 1/4 notes,
1&2&3&4& that's 8th notes or 1e&uh2e&uh3e&uh4e&uh these are 16ths, in faster rhythms this is usually done 2 handed with one hand coming off for the 2 and 4 backbeat.
Shuffles and swing, Hip Hop are based in triplets, so a slow blues for instance: 1&uh2&uh3&uh4&uh
swing and shuffles are 'broken triplet' based meaning you leave out the middle '&' part, but give the '-' the same amount of time as the played notes.
For a shuffle: 1-uh2-uh3-uh4-uh
swing leaves out the last 2 partials of the triplet first, then plays 1st and 3rd , these then alternate. 1--2-uh3--4-uh
Now if you divide a 1/4 note into 6 parts (played as 2 broken triplets 1-uh&-uh2-uh&-uh 3-uh&-uh4-uh&-uh) and play kick 1 and 3, snare 2 and 4 you get what I learned as 'real funk' but, I think is called Hip Hop, I could be corrected. Also usually 2 hands playing the cymbal flow.
These just address the cymbal flow with backbeat, snare and kick have more to do once you learn the basic beat keeping.
I am not a teacher, this is just the way I think of cymbal flows.
You want to play steady time but, when learning, practicing going really slow, breaking time when necessary to 'stumble' through a part is not a problem, when you put it all together practice with a metronome (or recording) to solidify.