Well 2 wrongs don't make a right. Three lefts do, however.If you had 1 kid who misbehaved WAY more than the others, would he be allowed the same privileges as the rest?
I would not slight my kid for misbehavior. My dad did that. All he taught me was what not to do. You punish your child accordingly and explain why their behavior is unacceptable. I would be denied food, birthdays would be intentionally ignored, there were beatings, blah blah blah. So yes, the child would still be provided with all the opportunities of the other children. Once they turn 18, they arent my problem anymore. It's my job to teach them how to be decent human beings, not deny them things because I dont agree with their behavior.