You are 100% correct in your understanding of corporate etiquette and the rules that govern corporate society. I simply disagree with the concept. Would there be anarchy if everyone decided to John Wayne everything? Yes. Would there be a little more humanity imparted into society if people were people, and not one piece of the puzzle that is said entity? Yes. Is there a gray area? I say that there is...many will disagree, but I think that there is room for the self inside of the greater it. Whatever that it might be.