My last post probably sounds harsher than intended, so I probably need to rectifiy a few things. Sorry for dragging you into this lengthy discussion!
I certainly don't want to force anybody in particular to learn notation and counting. It's just that I endorse learning the basics of it.
The effort is pretty low (a few hours) and the risks of learning it are minimal to me. The benefits far outweigh the effort and risks: writing your own notes, communicating with band members, reading exercises and learning transcriptions *.
I guess the discussion reminds me of a similar recurring one: Will a metronome make my playing robotic? / Does it mess with my natural time and ability to listen and groove with a band? I'd say definitely not, as long as you still use your ears. What it will do is showing you that some things are actually not as great as your hearing suggested at first. So it might actually improve your listening abilities.
Unfortunately, metronomes and notation seem to be sidelined quite often, because they might be a little bit frustrating at first. However, the learning curve picks up rather quickly and then you've acquired something very useful and the initial frustration will be gone for good.
Since there was a call for more videos that explain stuff quickly, here is one by Rick Beato. This one is surprisingly concise and might help to brush up on the most important rhythms that drummers use. If you're completely new to it, it might be a bit fast, though.
* I've found that transcriptions by good authors are often very accurate. If 99% of a given transcription are correct, that's not too bad - especially if you can't transcribe it yourself or if you don't have the time and motivation to do so. Definitely, use your ears and listen to the original. Transcribing yourself is a great way to develop your hearing, too. So again, I feel like eyes and ears can work together.