North West England is where all my gigging experience is from. The norm is that the venue, promoter or the big band provide shell pack, stool (not a throne) and stands.
As a fat man I like to take my own throne, and as a terrible drummer, I like to take a couple of stands and lots of felts; they are usually missing or in a sorry state.
I'm happy for anyone to use any of my gear, but ask that they don't mess with the tuning and make sure I get all my bits back at the end of the night, with the exception of my cymbals. I play loud but I don't hit phenomenally hard and use Meinl Extra Dry Thin cymbals which would be a shame for someone else to have to replace.
But I have to thank drummers who've let me lend their whole kits and cymbals (their offer not my request), especially a couple of poor lads who really put the floor in floor tom, and when i was sitting down my snare was about 6" higher. They've always been good and let me adjust the height, and I always help them put it back during change over.
I am however, planning on getting a high end kit for a home studio, that will see more fingers broken than finger marks.