Criminal activity?? Come on now brother! Just harboring that thought is insecure and criminal in and of itself. Talking about musician stereotypes. Wow. LOL.First date. She needs to know you are a drummer, what she is getting into. If it was a guitar, would you hide it? If you like this girl, hiding stuff from her might make you look insecure, or possibly a liar. Show them to her, you don't have to play them. But be up front about it.
It's not like hiding an addiction, or another woman, or criminal activity.
Criminal activity?? Come on now brother! Just harboring that thought is insecure and criminal in and of itself. Talking about musician stereotypes. Wow. LOL.
I'm super upfront about being a drummer, but actually taking a girl to see my drums? Definitely not on the first date. How bad would she feel knowing that I would never love her as much as them.
Gotcha! Yeah the disappearing act would be suspect.That's not what I meant. If you hide something like playing drums, and go play them without telling her, she might think you are hiding something.
Why does he disappear for two hours a day and not tell me why? Is he cheating on me? Is he a criminal? Is it something else?
Building trust doesn't happen if you hide stuff. If you can't be upfront and honest about yourself, why would the other person stick around? Would you?