A lot of drummers just don't "get it."
I think some people don't make a clear distinction between practicing and playing. Some of the YouTube videos look like guys showing off what they're practicing. For all we know, they might be really good with a band. Or maybe they never stop practicing and sound exactly the same when they play with a band. There's nothing wrong with someone shredding alone in a basement as a hobby, and the basement shredders like to show off for each other on YouTube.
As for me, I have slow hands so I could never play that stuff, and slow ears so it all sounds like a big drum kit falling down a long flight of stairs to me.
I went to two clinics with a buddy of mine. At one, we watched some prog Rock guy throw his kit down a long flight of stairs for 45 minutes straight. My buddy was hugely impressed and I was nodding off. Then we went to a Dennis Chambers clinic which I thought was brilliant, and my buddy thought was boring because Chambers didn't play a wall of chops. I think I'm in the minority. Most people, drummers and the general public, would be more impressed by the chops monster than the groove master.
Nobody's going to be impressed by drumming, so I try to make the vox and guitar sound good. That's what the audience came to hear.