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Old 09-07-2014, 10:24 PM
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Have you guys seen this article (from 2012)? I find it very worthwile and interesting:
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Old 09-07-2014, 11:31 PM
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Interesting... not one of those five regrets apply to how I've conducted my life so far.

I guess when I tell my story to that nurse, she'll have to add a new chapter to her book!

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Interesting... not one of those five regrets apply to how I've conducted my life so far.

I guess when I tell my story to that nurse, she'll have to add a new chapter to her book!

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My take...

1. If you don't have your health you have nothing. Or, if you lived unhealthy and are now paying the price for it you would gladly trade anything for your health back.

2. In regards to supporting yourself and/or your family, there are people who do what they have to do and there are those who are extremely fortunate and get to do what they want to do. Right? Or is it that the greater percentage of us do what we have to do to get to a point in life where we can enjoy the fruits of our labor. Someone once said that we should all be millionaires at 18 so we can enjoy our youth. And it has also been said that youth is wasted on the young.

3. We all need work, to work, and to make ourselves what we are and what we will be. Work is intrinsic to the human condition. Without work, avocation, or vocation, what would we be? What would be our worth?

4. True friends are those who are still around when you really need a friend, need help in a big way and they step up and are there for you. People in our lives come and go. I have a few friends. I've been around hundreds of people, maybe even a thousand or so. I get along with most. But I think I probably have less than 2 or 3 true friends. I think that might be the experience of most others as well.

5. Happy? I don't know if it is my understanding of the term that puzzles me or my perception of happiness. But I do know that I am at peace. Pop's was right. Never lie, never steal or cheat, never take advantage of someone else, and always be polite. Am I? I strive for that and I think I have done pretty well in my dealings with other like minded people.
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My biggest issue with dying is not knowing how all of this turns out. What happens to my family and friends, what discoveries do I miss, where does the human race wind up?

For the eternally curious it's most disconcerting. If only in that last second you could know, but alas, it is not to be...


Bo, perhaps your final regret will be that you're not Bermuda, eh?
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My biggest issue with dying is not knowing:
1. how all of this turns out.
2. What happens to my family and friends,
3. what discoveries do I miss,
4. where does the human race wind up?
'potential' answers":
1. life rolls on, the earth never stops
2. life rolls on for them, and then they die too
3. hmmm, many more than you lived through?
4. fossils in the geologic record
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Sorry, but I'm not satisfied with vague generalities!
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#4 fr me, in fact I already regret being slack about staying in touch.

I regret that all my unanswered questions. I'd love to know the future. Life is is like walking into a movie theatre partway through the movie. At first you have no idea what's going on but, just as you start getting absorbed, the ushers escort you out again.
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My biggest issue with dying is not knowing how all of this turns out. What happens to my family and friends, what discoveries do I miss, where does the human race wind up?

For the eternally curious it's most disconcerting. If only in that last second you could know, but alas, it is not to be...


Bo, perhaps your final regret will be that you're not Bermuda, eh?
Well, I wasn't going to say anything. But, yeah ;)
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Regrets? Too few to mention.

I just want to die before my children and any grandchildren do. It doesn't seem much to ask, but all too often it isn't a given.

And after that, I hope there's absolutely nothing at all, although I wouldn't mind being reunited with my horse and numerous cats.
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My biggest issue with dying is not knowing how all of this turns out. What happens to my family and friends, what discoveries do I miss, where does the human race wind up?
You haven't seen "Demolition Man" then? If you can't die satisfied on that good of a predicted future, you're going to have to die un-satisfied.
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Life is is like walking into a movie theatre partway through the movie. At first you have no idea what's going on but, just as you start getting absorbed, the ushers escort you out again.
That is as good an analogy as I have ever heard.

Just to let you know, I will be stealing this for future use.
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My biggest regret is that with the exception of my son, I will have to lose every one of my friends and loved ones, because I'm going to outlive them all.
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That is as good an analogy as I have ever heard.

Just to let you know, I will be stealing this for future use.
Sure Jim. If you get quoted in a diary or something, I'll expect a blog piece giving me credit :)
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That is as good an analogy as I have ever heard.

Just to let you know, I will be stealing this for future use.
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With the one exception... my daughter...
... lyrics from one of my favorite artists.

No Regrets - Robbie Williams

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My biggest issue with dying is not knowing how all of this turns out. What happens to my family and friends, what discoveries do I miss, where does the human race wind up?....

That's why people invented reincarnation.

Doesn't work so well unless it's accompanied by an awareness of past lives though.
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Old 09-08-2014, 08:41 PM
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Geez Grea, this is really great.

BTW, this article was posted recently by a friend on fb so I've been giving it a fair amount of thought.

While it's a bummer to think about mortality and not seeing how the movie ends, I'm not sure I'd want to take another ride - I don't want to walk into another movie theater not knowing anything about the characters or story line, to take the trouble to figure out what was going on - too often guessing incorrectly and asking dumb questions - only to be ushered out before seeing how it ends.

Thing is, is that too often movies have unsatisfactory endings anyway, and there are a lot of interruptions by other theater-goers who either ask a lot of dumb questions (as I did and do), or who simply don't care about the flick. Then there are the naps, trips to the snack bar and loo ... all while the movie continues to roll.

I dunno. I'm glad to be here and all, but I think by the end of this run, I'm gonna have a been-there / done-that attitude towards the whole thing. I can already feel the beginnings of it.
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My biggest regret is that with the exception of my son, I will have to lose every one of my friends and loved ones, because I'm going to outlive them all.
Well, either that, or go out in a blaze of high-volt electrician glory.
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#4 fr me, in fact I already regret being slack about staying in touch.

I regret that all my unanswered questions. I'd love to know the future. Life is is like walking into a movie theatre partway through the movie. At first you have no idea what's going on but, just as you start getting absorbed, the ushers escort you out again.
That's kind of similar to what I thought about ....life in general Grea.Except with my version,I start watching a movie on cable,and it's really getting good.Just then,lighting knocks out the electricity,and I never get to see the ending,or the begining,and I'm stuck reading a book,and using a propane camp lantern for lighting.The sh*t end of the stick,just when your were getting the hang of it.

That's an example of not doing everything A to Z.If you try to start, at somewhere after A,to save time and effort,or finish before Z , to save time and effort,there are usually unpleasent consequences.

As far as reincarnation is concerned,if you are a believer,then if you've left unfinished business,or didn't right a wrong....you'll be back.The idea is that you must learn from a past life's mistakes,and correct your behavior,or you'll keep repeating different lifetimes,till you get it right.

I believe that when it's over,it's over,no afterlife,no reincarnation.So do your best to get it right the first time folks.

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I believe that when it's over,it's over,no afterlife,no reincarnation.So do your best to get it right the first time folks.

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As I like to say, when you're dead it's going to feel exactly the way it did before you were conceived.

Funny thing about reincarnation, people seem to "remember" being a king or a princess or a powerful warrior, but nobody seems to remember being a luckless serf who got died at age 27. There were a lot more of the latter than the former.
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One thing that I take pleasure in knowing about death and dying is that I will not be heard saying 'I wish I could have owned a set of Sonor drums...'
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1. my drumming cape wasn't long enough
2. no flying drumset

other than that i would be pretty good at the end. and who knows? i am still working on both, hey it could happen!
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No regrets, coyote. None.
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As I like to say, when you're dead it's going to feel exactly the way it did before you were conceived.

Funny thing about reincarnation, people seem to "remember" being a king or a princess or a powerful warrior, but nobody seems to remember being a luckless serf who got died at age 27. There were a lot more of the latter than the former.
this why people wonder about dying and reincarnation. First they their egos want to know what people think about them. They need to be the fly on the wall. And to be reincarnated they want to be something different, never themselves again. whether they were prince or frog they still want people to know it's them. The ego seems to outlive the human
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Funny thing about reincarnation...
I for one hated being a T Rex.

Having hayfever (well, fern fever as it was back then) and not being able to scratch my nose was dreadful. Going extinct was something of a relief really.
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Nah... no ragrets, not even a single letter :)

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While it's a bummer to think about mortality ...
I disagree, Mike. I think mortality is one of the very best things to think about. Probably should have been a goth :)

People who come close to death often come away with a fresh outlook on life. Thinking about life, the universe and everything reminds me not to get too caught up in bullcrap as we hurtle through space at over a million miles an hour ...

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No regrets, coyote. None.
Joni Mitchel reference. Nice.
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I for one hated being a T Rex.

Having hayfever (well, fern fever as it was back then) and not being able to scratch my nose was dreadful. Going extinct was something of a relief really.
Pretty funny man. Fern fever lol. All you had to do was rub your nose on a tree trunk if it itched. Geez no wonder you went extinct.

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You're not kidding! I've been looking for a hi-viz florescent singlet for summer running for a couple years now with no luck. The closest thing I found was hi-viz orange muscle tee.

I should put this in the annoyance thread, along with a reference to people who run/walk in the road when there's a perfectly good sidewalk (or side street) just feet away. Especially the fools who wear dark colors. In the evening.
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You have a problem with Goths, Jim?
I'd prefer they not be easy targets for distracted drivers or those with malicious intent. Or even those like me who don't like the sudden surprise of realizing that that isn't a shadow but rather a human being with questionable sartorial choices.

At least if they were walking toward traffic their pale, vampire-like skin might produce sufficient contrast for them to be more easily noticed.
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