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Old 07-16-2017, 09:03 PM
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Hey I'm new around here , here's the problem --

3/4 days ago I had a brutal discussion with my girlfriend

After that she ran into my shed and she went full berserk on my stuff

She managed to mess up a lot of things and damage pretty badly a floor tom of an old drum kit I was restoring.

I have some pics -

She mess up my floor tom during the delicate procedure of "removing old
glued on wrap from your drum with maximum caution" , I have no idea how she did it 'cause the wood is teared up pretty badly.. (She propbably grabbed the drum from the wrap that wasn't attached)..

So I removed the huge splinters that were sticking out of the drum and I thought to myself :

Should I try to kinda "repair" it by smoothing out the first layer of wood to make it combine with the second layer , or should I just trash it and get a new shell ?

What do you guys think? (Besides thinking that my girlfriend is a complete psycho that knows my weaknesses)
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:12 AM
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I don't think she can be repaired. Maybe some counseling?
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:13 AM
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You haven't said what drums they are.

The cost to value ratio will pretty much determine what should be done with the drums.


The drums may or not not be worth repairing, but the relationship definitely is not!!

Get rid of this psycho bitch now. Dump her crazy arse and never look back. Before it's more than a drum kit that is in need of repair.
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:16 AM
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Thank god it was wrapped!

It 'was' wrapped.... Right?

No surprises down the road in ~9 months?
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:36 AM
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What do you guys think? (Besides thinking that my girlfriend is a complete psycho that knows my weaknesses)
I think #1 thing to do is to not have this girlfriend, so I am hoping she is past tense. If not, dump her immediately. What she did is abuse ...to your drums, and to you.

#2, not sure these shells are worth it. Move on....
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Old 07-17-2017, 06:22 AM
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Let's ease up a bit on the girlfriend bashing. We don't know now what "brutal discussion" really means. I'm not saying Swift brought it himself, but we don't know he's innocent in all the heartache here (2 sides to every story/drumhead as it were). While I don't condone destruction of personal property, I also don't think we should condone or be calling his girlfriend names.
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Old 07-17-2017, 06:44 AM
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You should trash the shell. I don't think it can be saved for a re-wrap.

Or you could do some creative staining on the raw shell like I did.
Raw shells can provide for very open and resonate sounding drums.







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Old 07-17-2017, 06:45 AM
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Let's ease up a bit on the girlfriend bashing. We don't know now what "brutal discussion" really means. I'm not saying Swift brought it himself, but we don't know he's innocent in all the heartache here (2 sides to every story/drumhead as it were). While I don't condone destruction of personal property, I also don't think we should condone or be calling his girlfriend names.
Screw that! Nobody gets a second chance to break my stuff---ditch the bitch! Fix the drum!
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Old 07-17-2017, 07:09 AM
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You should trash the shell. I don't think it can be saved for a re-wrap.

Or you could do some creative staining on the raw shell like I did.
Raw shells can provide for very open and resonate sounding drums.







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That looks absolutely amazing! I might have to pick your brain for a Tama Rockstar set I could do that with.

Anywho, ditch the craziness and restore the drums now that they have personal story value!
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Old 07-17-2017, 08:54 AM
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I'm afraid you've opened a can of worms here, Swift.

I agree with Lee-Bro that we should focus on the drums and drop the girlfriend comments, we can't be making judgements without knowing the details, and I think you should keep those out of this forum and discuss the situation with someone you know and trust personally.

Though I will say this: a good relationship is composed of two people who of course know each others weaknesses and who are also sensitive towards those same weaknesses. In other words, they don't go attacking each others vulnerability.

If you're a guy that restores drums and goes on drum forums, I'm guessing that drumming is a significant part of your identity.
They might just be wooden cylinders to others, but by attacking your shells, your girlfriend was actually making a personal attack on you, either consciously are unconsciously.

This is a situation I recognise.

Ask yourself if her reaction was a one-off or whether there are other repeated situations like this. Is it an anger management issue or is it a problem in the relationship? Also, have the courage to look in the mirror and reflect on yourself, that can help a lot too.

Sorry can't offer advice on the drums, I hope at least that the rest is useful.
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Old 07-17-2017, 11:26 AM
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Let's ease up a bit on the girlfriend bashing. We don't know now what "brutal discussion" really means. I'm not saying Swift brought it himself, but we don't know he's innocent in all the heartache here (2 sides to every story/drumhead as it were). While I don't condone destruction of personal property, I also don't think we should condone or be calling his girlfriend names.
Maybe it will be revealed that this is somehow a measured and reasonable response.

Then again, maybe he'll wake one day to find his bunny boiling on the stove and his missus propped up at a sewing machine trying to make a skinsuit out of his hide. :-)
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Old 07-17-2017, 01:23 PM
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Well, I agree, it isn't our place to "trash" the girlfriend, but we have free speech on DW (least to the point Gruntersdad steps in) so people can comment how they please (no matter how ill-informed as admittedly some of my comments LOL). it's up to Swift to trash his girlfriend, if he so pleases, but I suggest, just IMHO, trashing the girl and drum-in no particular order. This reminds me of an old roommate and his live in girl friend-they fought like cats and dogs-and she was very physical too-broke his windshield of his car, pushed him off balcony and he landed on his hood and buckled it, etc. Thankfully they quit dating and both became better people-still friends to this day oddly enough.
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Old 07-17-2017, 01:43 PM
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Why would you want to keep those shells anyway considering the trauma they were involved with.

This is a big favor she did you. Look at the bright side, she's out of your life.

She is out of your life, right?

I'd burn the set and move on.

In fact I would make a ceremony out of it, thanking your Creator for revealing this person's true colors.
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Old 07-17-2017, 01:48 PM
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Just reskin it as is and hit it harder than usual.. Rat Rod Drums, the next BIG THING!
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Old 07-17-2017, 02:13 PM
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I think it may have been better served to just present the drum/wood repair issue without all of the drama of the relationship.
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Old 07-17-2017, 02:14 PM
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I have always labored under the opinion that my measured colleagues would welcome the opportunity to advance an intellectual response when presented with the challenge of a "brutal discussion".

Alas, I am not often fortunate to be correct in this regard.

Maybe play the drums as-is to remind yourself of the consequences of changing the terms of a relationship in a brutal fashion.
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Old 07-17-2017, 02:18 PM
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I know that this is not the place for relationship advice. But you don't want to be in the position of having her break a really beloved or expensive instrument. At least, i wouldn't...
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Old 07-17-2017, 02:46 PM
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Old 07-17-2017, 02:58 PM
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Sounds like the only shell damaged was the floor tom. Get a new shell -- there's no special value in the old one anymore now that it's been so damaged, and the hours you'd spend trying to get it back into shape (and never really recapturing the same tone anyway) would far outweigh the cost of replacing it.
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Old 07-17-2017, 03:04 PM
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Though girlfriends can be a bit out there sometimes, I think this is more an issue of a trollfriend.
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:02 PM
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I'd burn the set and move on.
Hey Larry. Perfect idea. A burnt wood look.

Here is DW's Burnt Toast color.





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OK how many of you think the original post is not a real story and it's a joke on us.
And the poster won't be returning to comment.

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OK how many of you think the original post is not a real story and it's a joke on us.
And the poster won't be returning to comment.

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Yes, it could be a social experiment for a research project on human behaviour.
If a one-time poster or troll, I still give him credit for an original username.
What exactly is 'swift asbestos'?
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Old 07-17-2017, 05:40 PM
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OK how many of you think the original post is not a real story and it's a joke on us.
And the poster won't be returning to comment.

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Me!! Me!!

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Old 07-17-2017, 06:06 PM
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Yes, it could be a social experiment for a research project on human behaviour.
If a one-time poster or troll, I still give him credit for an original username.
What exactly is 'swift asbestos'?
Oh dear, if it's a test, I sure hope I passed... just think, someone, somewhere, is analysing each of us DW forum members, how exciting! I've always wanted to be a guinea pig, I heard it pays well...

Someone! Somewhere! In the summertime!

(let the wanna-be shrink analyse that last bit... hahaha)
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Old 07-17-2017, 06:33 PM
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The first thing I noticed was there is no glue on the shell, so I figured the whole story was bogus---no need to be nice to trolls!
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Old 07-17-2017, 06:48 PM
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He is listed as having an Italy IP address so we will have out European undercover staff search him out.
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The first thing I noticed was there is no glue on the shell, so I figured the whole story was bogus---no need to be nice to trolls!
Is it just the fact that there's no glue on shell that gives away he's a "troll" or is there any other factors other than him not responding to the thread?
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This is his first post---and he joined the forum in MARCH! Re-read the original post, and you will realize none of it makes sense---restoring old drums---not old luddies, not old slingys---carefully removing glued-on wrap---there is no glue residue on the shell---brutal discussion? All of it smells like BS to me!
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Old 07-17-2017, 08:02 PM
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If this is legit, I typically support working with what you got. It has a story. Display the story. Now in this case, the story kinda sucks and I'd not pursue fixing that.

If this is a fake post... well dayum

If this is a troll...
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He is listed as having an Italy IP address so we will have out European undercover staff search him out.
Italy? That would explain the girlfriend's heated temperament...

I'm on the case GD. Bernhard is geographically closer, but we shouldn't risk our best agents just yet.

I'll get to the bottom of this, I have ways to make him speak...

Igor my trusted aide! Bring me my '80s Taiwan beginner set, with the stock heads... and some early Meinl crashes in 20", as well as the Buddy Rich signature sticks!

Not the early Meinl crashes, master!


Yes Igor, Yes! Hurry now.... mwahahahahahahahahahhahahahahahahahaha
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Italy? That would explain the girlfriend's heated temperament...
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But you just stated above that "we should focus on the drums and drop the girlfriend comments"? And only Italians get heated? Tsk.
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But you just stated above that "we should focus on the drums and drop the girlfriend comments". And only Italians get heated? Tsk.
Duuh, yeah. Italians are the Chief Heaters! But in a silly-sophistocated kind of way... a bit like a cross between ballet and football/soccer when things go wrong.
Unlike the Spanish, they're much more heart-on-sleeve and proud, sort of Matador-style...
As for the French, don't even get me started...

But, what does anyone in B.C. know about getting heated? I mean, you have the placid forests and the placid mountains, the placid ocean with the placid whales. And Quebec is waaaay over on the other side of... what's the country called again? Anyway, Quebecites (hehe), oh, I'm sorry, I mean "Les Québecois" might know something about getting heated, being sort of frenchy and all.

Oh, I'll concede that Ice Hockey gets a bit heated now and again, but it's still on ice.

So, this is why GD has appointed me European agent and not you. Right GD? GD? uh, ok.... he must be maintaining radio silence during the current operation.

So if you would kindly stop drawing attention to me, you'll blow my cover, man!

Until further notice I am not me, I don't know what a paralell snare strainer is, I think acoustic music is for old people, and I think jazz is classical music from the middle ages.

My name is Moîk Stindt and I only listen to this kind of cool music:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpN42A-rh3Y

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rCCzf8PrdjI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3dGj9h8ggCc

Now where did I put those false passports?
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To be continued....unfortunately.
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