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Old 03-08-2014, 03:36 AM
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Default Lead singer has asked me out for a date

Well, it has happened

The greatest taboo in a band

The lead singer has asked me out on a date

She text me a the other day and said she really likes me and wants to go out with me

I NEVER mix business with pleasure

She is R-E-A-L-L-Y attractive but........
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Old 03-08-2014, 04:14 AM
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Devil's advocate chiming in here.....do it! Sure it's the absolute wrong thing to do, but stuff it. Have fun, I say!
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Old 03-08-2014, 04:25 AM
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The repercussions can get really ugly, it's not smart.

Unless you want to quit the band and then date her! :)

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Old 03-08-2014, 04:31 AM
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Hey, don't knock it. Worked great for Terry Bozzio.

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Old 03-08-2014, 04:36 AM
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How deeply invested in the band are you, and how good is the band, really?

Me, I'd quit the band and date the girl. Maybe I'm a romantic, lol.
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Old 03-08-2014, 05:12 AM
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Hey, don't knock it. Worked great for Terry Bozzio.

...am I right?
Agreed. Follow your .... heart.
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Old 03-08-2014, 05:28 AM
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Worked out OK for the McCartney's..........although not so much for the McVie's.

I once played in a band with a husband and wife team. I thought we must be idiots for taking them on, but we decided to give it a roll and see what happens. Glad we did. That band lasted a good few years and I have some great memories of it. Their working dynamic was a hell of a lot better than many outfits I played in. I've seen two blokes get a hell of a lot bitchier than those two ever came close to being. Very few dramas at all now that I look back on it.

Ultimately, there's no hard and fast rule. Sometimes it's a disaster, sometimes it's roses. We only ever hear about the disasters though.
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Old 03-08-2014, 05:35 AM
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...am I right?
Yes. Absolutely........You right!
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Old 03-08-2014, 05:45 AM
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Sad to say but both options have their fair share of odds. I'd say it's a coin toss. But then again there are millions of single girls on the earth. Wish I could say the same thing about working bands that need a drummer.
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Old 03-08-2014, 05:49 AM
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I'm friends with a couple who literally live, work and play together (male drummer, female singer in a death metal band) and they make it work quite nicely (I suspect they're the exception to the rule though)!
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Old 03-08-2014, 06:51 AM
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Of course it did.

I mean, he's only on wife #3 now.
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Old 03-08-2014, 07:11 AM
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The safest option is "don't screw the crew" and I've always been strict about that. Friends only. Still, I only know what's good for me, Kat.

I don't think her being hot is a good enough reason, though, unless you can both be cynical, have some recreational bonking, and remain on good terms otherwise. Not so easy medium term. If you feel like she could be the love of your life that's a whole other matter.
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Old 03-08-2014, 07:20 AM
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Go kat go - but don't you... step on her blue suede shoes :-)
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Old 03-08-2014, 08:02 AM
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Absolutely horrible idea.

I say go for it.
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Old 03-08-2014, 08:08 AM
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Pictures or it didn't happen.
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Old 03-08-2014, 08:34 AM
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I NEVER mix business with pleasure

She is R-E-A-L-L-Y attractive but........
You NEVER mix business with pleasure... keep the motto true to yourself.

So it's either business or pleasure... you could ask her to quit the band, then you keep both, business and pleasure... :)
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Old 03-08-2014, 09:14 AM
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Absolutely horrible idea.

I say go for it.
Hahahaha, perfect answer Larry ;)

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Pictures or it didn't happen.
Oh, how distasteful of you to pull that in these circumstances Bo.

Yes, multiple pictures please :)



As I'm such a nice & thoughtful guy, I do offer a frustrated & hot female lead singer "re-focussing" service. Guaranteed to make the problem go away ;)
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Old 03-08-2014, 09:20 AM
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Well.....

I have taken advice from both sides of the argument

Given the fact that these guys put up with the amount of night shift I do

And they are forgiving of my commitments with my kids

I called her and said no....

I am NOT looking forward to rehearsals this Thursday

Thanks guys for your input

Sorry Bo, haven't got pics yet...but alas it DID happen...LOL
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Old 03-08-2014, 09:25 AM
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Sorry Bo, haven't got pics yet..
...yet...

Yet is good :)
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Old 03-08-2014, 09:27 AM
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Well....whaddya know!

I have found a pic

This is the closest I could find

But seriously guys, I will post a pic of her if she is willing. I will call her


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Old 03-08-2014, 09:32 AM
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Well... on second thought, "yet" was bad...

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Old 03-08-2014, 09:40 AM
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I have found a pic

This is the closest I could find

But seriously guys, I will post a pic of her if she is willing. I will call her


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Wow - stunner!

I take it you did explain your reasons?

Another thought, how long do you think it will take one of your bandmates to (ahem) "jump on board"? That would likely have the same result, but you'd be the one wondering "what if" :(
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Old 03-08-2014, 10:08 AM
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Well that's just GREAT!

I just called her and she is now leaving for the east coast this week!

Me and my big mouth
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Old 03-08-2014, 12:42 PM
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Well that's just GREAT!

I just called her and she is now leaving for the east coast this week!

Me and my big mouth
You, mean she's leaving for good because you didn't agree to a date?
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Old 03-08-2014, 04:13 PM
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Hi KIS

Not sure, but the band has dissolved

She is leaving

I don't think I am worth leaving the STATE for...

I gotta sneaking suspicion she was leaving anyway

I am gonna leave my personal stuff off DW from now on
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I say go for it.

Hahahahahahaha! Loved it Lar!
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Hi KIS

Not sure, but the band has dissolved

She is leaving

I don't think I am worth leaving the STATE for...

I gotta sneaking suspicion she was leaving anyway

I am gonna leave my personal stuff off DW from now on
What an absolute bummer, but you made the call. TBH, if she's that fickle, looks like it was all going to pan out the same way anyhow.

No chance of sneaking a quick knee trembler in before she leaves? ;) ;) ;)

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See, your inaction gave an extreme outcome.... no date, she left the band, band dissolved.
Maybe you can change your mind .....now that the band is done there are no consequences.
Just curious what kind of band?
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Sounds like an attractive flake, and you dodged a bullet.
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See, your inaction gave an extreme outcome.... no date, she left the band, band dissolved.
Maybe you can change your mind .....now that the band is done there are no consequences.
Just curious what kind of band?
Indy pop

We were going for a sound like the Eels
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Sounds like an attractive flake, and you dodged a bullet.
Yep.

Just remember...she may be really hot but somebody somewhere is tired of putting up with her.

Bullet dodged. Go get a new band.

Actually, how much of the band was she? Why did it have to dissolve? Could you all just audition a new singer?
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Agree with IDD and Brady. Your ex-singer sounds like the kind of unstable character you don't want in a band (or in your life) unless you're looking for that edgy, doomed Janis Joplin / Jim Morrison shtick.

Think about it, Kat. A singer fancies her drummer, but she doesn't know him that well. He decides to maintain professional distance and rebuffs her advance. This prompts her to immediately quit the band and relocate to another state.

That's pretty intense. Bunny boiler intense.
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Bunny boiler intense.
Took the words right outta my mouth.

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...A singer fancies her drummer, but she doesn't know him that well. He decides to maintain professional distance and rebuffs her advance. This prompts her to immediately quit the band and relocate to another state.

That's pretty intense. Bunny boiler intense.
Or p'raps she knew she was leaving and just fancied bumping uglies before she left.

Either way, this still applies...

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Yeah what's more important, your time in the band or pursuing a romantic relationship? That scenario almost always NEVER works out.
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I would have gone for it. Just sayin'...


In serious: sucks about the band, but why'd everybody leave? Why not form something new out of dissolved band?
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I would have gone for it. Just sayin'...


In serious: sucks about the band, but why'd everybody leave? Why not form something new out of dissolved band?

hi creepy....

I don't think their hearts were in it

Oh well...back to the drawing board

I might form a band myself

I have always wanted to be in an all girl band (well, I would be the non-girl of course)

Might try that for a change...something different
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I have always wanted to be in an all girl band (well, I would be the non-girl of course)

Might try that for a change...something different
Mmmh... sounds like you're in trouble buddy...

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I dont want to be a Monday morning quarterback but uhh... yeah you probably should have dated her. ;P
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