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Matt Bo Eder
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I had an interesting discussion the other day with a friend. He's a guitarist/bassist, and prior to turning 50, he had worked a lot. He played constantly with cover bands in the state, did a lot of world touring, and his last big gig was as road manager for a big artist who hit big in the late 60s/early 70s. From time to time, he would be asked to play, until he was unceremoniously fired after working with this artist for a good 20 years of his career.
Now that he's in his 50s, his playing out with others has definitely slowed down, the phone no longer rings for his services, he has a recording studio that is now basically storing all of his gear. Worse, when I told him he should put together another band and get back out there, his response was, "I don't think I'm enthusiastic about going out on the road again to make $300-$400 a night, considering how hard it is to physically do" (apparently, former big-name acts from the 70s member's make about that much per show).
I was never that busy, and am happy to be able to do whatever I get called to do. But, now that I'm in my 50s, I'm increasingly feeling the need to ask myself, "is that all there is?" And I know there have been a few times when I flat-out said no to a couple of projects because it was too much hassle for what it was - another musical project that could end at any time, but I'm bearing too much of the burden.
I know there are a lot of us here who are well past 50 and still enjoy playing. But I'm wondering if those of us who have worked a bit and have histories of working almost constantly, what would you do when the phone stops ringing? Is there a motivation to continue to get better as less and less people call upon you for your services? What's the point? Maybe retirement is just that, and maybe Bill Bruford called it right: retire, before you become completely irrelevant?
This is all just rambling, but I felt for my friend who was talking like this. I got this feeling I was watching a dream just die and fade away, and it was sad.
What say you?
Now that he's in his 50s, his playing out with others has definitely slowed down, the phone no longer rings for his services, he has a recording studio that is now basically storing all of his gear. Worse, when I told him he should put together another band and get back out there, his response was, "I don't think I'm enthusiastic about going out on the road again to make $300-$400 a night, considering how hard it is to physically do" (apparently, former big-name acts from the 70s member's make about that much per show).
I was never that busy, and am happy to be able to do whatever I get called to do. But, now that I'm in my 50s, I'm increasingly feeling the need to ask myself, "is that all there is?" And I know there have been a few times when I flat-out said no to a couple of projects because it was too much hassle for what it was - another musical project that could end at any time, but I'm bearing too much of the burden.
I know there are a lot of us here who are well past 50 and still enjoy playing. But I'm wondering if those of us who have worked a bit and have histories of working almost constantly, what would you do when the phone stops ringing? Is there a motivation to continue to get better as less and less people call upon you for your services? What's the point? Maybe retirement is just that, and maybe Bill Bruford called it right: retire, before you become completely irrelevant?
This is all just rambling, but I felt for my friend who was talking like this. I got this feeling I was watching a dream just die and fade away, and it was sad.
What say you?