This is a story of what happened at rehearsal last night and I'm posting to relieve a little guilt off my shoulders... I'm pretty sure the outcome was the right thing for the band... but i still can't help feeling a little bit bad at the same time.
Our band plays with a percussionist who is pretty good... He is the percussion manager for a big 20something piece Latin Ensemble on the side and he has about a million percussion instruments and knows how to use them, which is nice. He is also pretty prompt and timely and always shows up for gigs and rehearsals on time when he can make it. The problem is he comes off as sort of a prima donna.... He's always saying the guitars and bass are "WAY too loud", makes disgusted faces all the time, even on stage... What's worse is that when he gets pissy, he makes it obvious and even stops playing.. we were at a gig a couple of weeks ago, and he kept saying how our FoH mix was awful and for the rest of the night spent more time texting on his phone than playing... I made a note of all this as I was the only one on stage really seeing what was going on and told the band leader about it later... oh and as a side note, at every gig we play, people always tell us that the mix sounds good but that they can't hear the percussionist unless he's the only one playing... and THIS is because the guy refuses to let us turn up his mics through the PA... We try to, but he's always bitching about it and turns himself down... he always tells us "if you listen to Carlos Santana's percussion, you will know that you are rarely able to hear any of the congas, especially live".... what? So anyways, we are all pretty laid back guys so we just let it go, although we wonder what good it is to have to split pay with a percussionist who cannot be heard?
Well anyways, last night he was at rehearsal for the first time in 2 weeks because of business travels etc, and he immediately started off with the faces and mouthing "too loud" to me and pointing at the guitars.... now at rehearsal, all the guitars and bass have little amps used specifically for rehearsals only, and the only thing we have going through 2 wedge monitors are the vocals... volume-wise it really is nothing... the only thing is, since he insists on bringing so many instruments with him, in order to fit it all in the space, he pretty much has to be right in front of my drum kit... I know that can be loud so i even went the extra mile and bought him a set of nice earplugs the second time he played with us... I've seen him wear them twice out of the 20 times we've played together..
So as the rehearsal goes on, I'm sitting back there doing my thing and watching his disdainful looks steadily turn into bitter beer face proportions, and finally, i guess he's had enough since he stopped playing in the middle of a tune and laid his head on his congas looking like he's bored out of his mind.. he keeps this up for 2 more songs as I'm sitting there thinking to myself "wtf is with this dude?"... we start a song where I kick it off, i think it was Hard to Handle by the Black Crowes, he looks at me, sticks his fingers in his ears, shakes his head at me in disgust, turns around and starts putting things in a case! I'm a pretty patient laid back guy, but I completely lost it and stopped playing and stood up and shouted "WHAT THE F*&^ IS YOUR PROBLEM!?" complete silence ensues as everyone stops and turns around and looks at us and he immediately stammers around and says defensively "i was just shaking my head to the groove"... I was heated and I yelled
"Then what's your excuse for not playing 3 songs, putting fingers in your ears, 'while you are grooving', and packing things up when we still have 45 minutes left of rehearsal??... just never mind and keep packing your stuff up... you haven't been here for 2 weeks and I actually had fun while you were gone." The rest of the band just looked at him and shook their heads and we played the remaining 45 minutes while he packed his things up, looking pretty scared i might add..
When we finished up, everyone waited until he loaded everything up in his truck, said goodbye and left, and then asked me what happened... I told them exactly what pissed me off so bad and also explained that i have video footage of him showing the same kind of behavior on stage at a gig. They asked me what I thought we should do, and i said we should just talk to him and ask him if he's happy being in the band, explain that it's a rock band and not his latin jazz ensemble, act like he's in his 40's and not 10, and see what happens from there... I thought that was the end of the story as the rest of us drank some beers and watched the rest of the Dallas Mav's game, and then headed home...
As I was driving home from rehearsal, i got a call from the band leader who said "Jimmy is no longer playing with us, I told him if he can't get along with you, he can't get along with any of us and I fired him." I was pretty much in shock as we have a pretty important gig tomorrow and now I have to figure out all his percussion parts and try to duplicate them on my kit... and I've spent the day practicing and feeling guilty about how everything went down. His fiance even called the band leader and asked what happened, but considering she only speaks Spanish, I don't understand what she was trying to accomplish. The thing is, he was a nice guy, and we've even had long phone conversations about how he loves playing in this band with us, and how he really needs the work...
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I feel like his getting fired stemmed from me blowing up and I almost feel like I ratted him out... but another part of me feels like he dug his own hole, and we're better off auditioning more percussionists that are a better fit for our band... I really want to ask him how he would handle someone in his Latin Ensemble behaving like he does with us, as the percussion manager.
Thanks for reading and letting me get this off my chest...
Our band plays with a percussionist who is pretty good... He is the percussion manager for a big 20something piece Latin Ensemble on the side and he has about a million percussion instruments and knows how to use them, which is nice. He is also pretty prompt and timely and always shows up for gigs and rehearsals on time when he can make it. The problem is he comes off as sort of a prima donna.... He's always saying the guitars and bass are "WAY too loud", makes disgusted faces all the time, even on stage... What's worse is that when he gets pissy, he makes it obvious and even stops playing.. we were at a gig a couple of weeks ago, and he kept saying how our FoH mix was awful and for the rest of the night spent more time texting on his phone than playing... I made a note of all this as I was the only one on stage really seeing what was going on and told the band leader about it later... oh and as a side note, at every gig we play, people always tell us that the mix sounds good but that they can't hear the percussionist unless he's the only one playing... and THIS is because the guy refuses to let us turn up his mics through the PA... We try to, but he's always bitching about it and turns himself down... he always tells us "if you listen to Carlos Santana's percussion, you will know that you are rarely able to hear any of the congas, especially live".... what? So anyways, we are all pretty laid back guys so we just let it go, although we wonder what good it is to have to split pay with a percussionist who cannot be heard?
Well anyways, last night he was at rehearsal for the first time in 2 weeks because of business travels etc, and he immediately started off with the faces and mouthing "too loud" to me and pointing at the guitars.... now at rehearsal, all the guitars and bass have little amps used specifically for rehearsals only, and the only thing we have going through 2 wedge monitors are the vocals... volume-wise it really is nothing... the only thing is, since he insists on bringing so many instruments with him, in order to fit it all in the space, he pretty much has to be right in front of my drum kit... I know that can be loud so i even went the extra mile and bought him a set of nice earplugs the second time he played with us... I've seen him wear them twice out of the 20 times we've played together..
So as the rehearsal goes on, I'm sitting back there doing my thing and watching his disdainful looks steadily turn into bitter beer face proportions, and finally, i guess he's had enough since he stopped playing in the middle of a tune and laid his head on his congas looking like he's bored out of his mind.. he keeps this up for 2 more songs as I'm sitting there thinking to myself "wtf is with this dude?"... we start a song where I kick it off, i think it was Hard to Handle by the Black Crowes, he looks at me, sticks his fingers in his ears, shakes his head at me in disgust, turns around and starts putting things in a case! I'm a pretty patient laid back guy, but I completely lost it and stopped playing and stood up and shouted "WHAT THE F*&^ IS YOUR PROBLEM!?" complete silence ensues as everyone stops and turns around and looks at us and he immediately stammers around and says defensively "i was just shaking my head to the groove"... I was heated and I yelled
"Then what's your excuse for not playing 3 songs, putting fingers in your ears, 'while you are grooving', and packing things up when we still have 45 minutes left of rehearsal??... just never mind and keep packing your stuff up... you haven't been here for 2 weeks and I actually had fun while you were gone." The rest of the band just looked at him and shook their heads and we played the remaining 45 minutes while he packed his things up, looking pretty scared i might add..
When we finished up, everyone waited until he loaded everything up in his truck, said goodbye and left, and then asked me what happened... I told them exactly what pissed me off so bad and also explained that i have video footage of him showing the same kind of behavior on stage at a gig. They asked me what I thought we should do, and i said we should just talk to him and ask him if he's happy being in the band, explain that it's a rock band and not his latin jazz ensemble, act like he's in his 40's and not 10, and see what happens from there... I thought that was the end of the story as the rest of us drank some beers and watched the rest of the Dallas Mav's game, and then headed home...
As I was driving home from rehearsal, i got a call from the band leader who said "Jimmy is no longer playing with us, I told him if he can't get along with you, he can't get along with any of us and I fired him." I was pretty much in shock as we have a pretty important gig tomorrow and now I have to figure out all his percussion parts and try to duplicate them on my kit... and I've spent the day practicing and feeling guilty about how everything went down. His fiance even called the band leader and asked what happened, but considering she only speaks Spanish, I don't understand what she was trying to accomplish. The thing is, he was a nice guy, and we've even had long phone conversations about how he loves playing in this band with us, and how he really needs the work...
Has anyone else experienced anything like this? I feel like his getting fired stemmed from me blowing up and I almost feel like I ratted him out... but another part of me feels like he dug his own hole, and we're better off auditioning more percussionists that are a better fit for our band... I really want to ask him how he would handle someone in his Latin Ensemble behaving like he does with us, as the percussion manager.
Thanks for reading and letting me get this off my chest...