Thinking about it, if the situation arises where someone asks to sit in with the band, what do you guys think if I said, 'how about a drum solo instead? How would that go over? I mean that's what he was doing anyway. Mainly to spare the guys in the band.
I've been faced with that kind of stuff,from time to time,and just as politely as possible,said firmly....no.That manager,used his position as leverage,so you almost couldn't say no.I also agree,that this may become a regular thing with this "drummer" and his buds.
I think that it was also very presumtuous of this guy,to just come up and put you on the spot,instead of discussing this ahead of time.I think that if this guy,even remotely hints,that you either let him play,or forget about the gig.........bye.
I also think,that this drummer,was saying to his pals that he's was better than you,so they told him,why don't yo go up there and play.This was as much orchestrated,as it was spur of the moment.
I for one don't think this guy is anywhere near ,your skills as a drummer Lar,and he proved that my displaying more ego,than skill,common sense and good taste.
I would be prepared the next time,and I would also talk it over with the band.Unless you reallt need the coin,you shouldnt be under any pressure to allow this again.......no matter who asks.The're your drums,not the bars or the managers by proxy.
I got your back Lar.
Steve B