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Old 04-26-2011, 09:40 PM
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Guys, just back from a 2 day camping social with the band and families. Actually, not all could come due to last minute arrangements, but we had a great time. In the middle of the Black Mountains right next to a river, great spot.

Anyhow, we get together regularly for a BBQ or a night out, certainly several times a year. Not only is this fun, it also (imo) really helps the music vibe. Greater understanding & being sympathetic to each others skills & musical desires is a real plus. We discuss music at these events (plus, of course, a ton of other rubbish) and actually come up with riffs & other ideas. I really feel all of this spills over into the music in so many ways.

Your experiences, thoughts, funny stories?

p,s., of course, I got wasted on the second night & made a total fool of myself (now paying the price, lol).
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Old 04-26-2011, 09:50 PM
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It's funny, this activity for members of a band I love. But I don't do it with my mates at work. I don't have work buddies as Facebook friends either. You're either a personal friend (which playing together on the bandstand makes you) or you're an acquaintance I just have to deal with for eight hours at a time. I once saved up a bunch of complimentary tickets and pulled in some sign-in favors and brought about 15 of my friends into Disneyland for a day of hanging. They liked it so much, they bought the food!
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Old 04-26-2011, 09:59 PM
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Yeah, they definately are important.
Most people dont realise how much off stage behaviour affects what happens on stage. If the band are happy, best of friends together, the chemistry of the group and stage prescence will be much better than if everyones angry at eachother.
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Old 04-26-2011, 10:08 PM
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I used to play in a two-piece with this guy I met in the classifieds years ago. Him on guitar/vocs and me on drums. It was a blast. We went through a few bass players, but none really stuck. Anyway, me and this guy became something like best friends but after we stopped playing together, we couldn't find much opportunity to hang out since we're both so busy with work, families, etc.

We just got the band back together almost as an excuse to hang out more! And what's more, we found a bass player who fits in with us really well.

Good times.
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Old 04-26-2011, 10:14 PM
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I've been playing in bands since I was sixteen and it's always been one of my main social groups. Most of the good friends I still have a friends from some band I've been in. My main band right now is comprised of my girlfriend and her sister who is a good friend of mine. We hang out all the time.
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Old 04-26-2011, 10:36 PM
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Sometimes the drummer invites the band to his annual "luau" party, and then sometimes the drunk bass player pushes the drunk brother-in-law into the pool, and then the drunk brother-in-law sometimes picks up the bass player and body slams him on the concrete deck........just something to look out for.
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Old 04-26-2011, 11:03 PM
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I usually go eat with the guys from the band after rehearsal, it's always a good time. Being friends with the guys in my band has always been a positive thing for me, it makes me feel so much more comfortable and free, I've played with other bands where I wasn't as close to the guys and the difference is definitely there.
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Old 04-27-2011, 12:25 AM
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I try to have my acoustic group over once a month for family day. Bring you other half and kids. It's an acoustic trio so one of us handles food each time. No instruments allowed! This is strictly a hang out with the buddies.
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Old 04-27-2011, 01:53 AM
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Absolutely essential if it's going to be more than just a job.
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Old 04-27-2011, 02:11 AM
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This is something of which I have no experience. The only "trips" I have been on with a band were tours. Even the fun stuff was playing related. I used to put on huge dinner parties when in Sydney between trips and musos would come. Don't know if that counts.
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Old 04-27-2011, 02:28 AM
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No thanks. I keep my real friends seperate from band guys. Not to say that I don't have musician friends, but the guys in the band I wouldn't want to go camping with. Maybe a night out to see another band, or a get together for a night for a barbecue, but that's about it.
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Old 04-27-2011, 03:01 AM
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Case by case....like every other aspect of my life. Some guys I want to hang with, others I don't. I have life long friendships that were formed around making music........I hung out a lot with those guys outside of the band.....still do. My two best mates are a bass player and singer/guitarist that I've played in numerous bands with but our friendship runs a hell of a lot deeper than just a musical connection. We're tight, we hang out all the time with our families.

On the flip side, I've played in bands where I haven't particularly liked another member(s). Nothing in common at all, other than our desire to make it happen musically. Needless to say I had very little to do with them outside of the rehearsal room or once we got off stage.

Sure it helps if everyone can get along on a level that's more than pure professionalism....but it isn't always the be-all-and-end-all of making great music. Some of the greatest bands of our time involved members that couldn't stand one another off stage. As hard as I'd find recording and touring with people you can't stand being in the same room as.......some great music has been written and recorded under those circustances.
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Old 04-27-2011, 04:54 AM
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I don't socialize with other members in our band other than the bass player and then we just ride motorcycles.

No BBQs, parties of any kind. Band life stays with the band, my home life stays with me.
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Old 04-27-2011, 05:04 AM
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sure its important....

but I was in the same band for a decade and when we would get off a 2 month tour.....I was ready to not see those cats for a while....

but after a couple days I definitely missed those cats....

we would regularly just hang and have beers and were as close as the closest family you know.....

we broke up about 2 years ago and one of them moved to Boston and I miss him everday.....and the other cat just released a solo instrumental record that I plan to tour with him on......

but the 10 years in that band were the best 10 years of my life
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Old 04-27-2011, 01:10 PM
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I don't think it's all that important but I enjoy it. Socialising or not, playing music with people over a number of years creates a special bond - most of the time. I can think of a couple of players I "worked" with for years who I'd be happy not to see again.

Even with those two, there's a small part of me that feels good about them for what we'd shared ... you'd need a microscope to see it, but it's there.
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Old 04-27-2011, 02:24 PM
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I live in Clifton (a nice part of Salford in Greater Manchester - yes, there is one!)

My guitarist/vocallist lives in Bacup (A small rural town in Lancashire)
- about half an hour drive from me

My other guitarist is from Bacup but lives in Blackpool
- 45 mins drive from me or an hour ten on the train

Our bassist lives in Haslingden, next door to Bacup.
- 30 mins away from me...


We hang out at rehearsals and at gigs... My non vocallist guitar player and I are close mates, we go to Blackpool to see them, hang at the local metal club, hang at theirs, we know the same people.... our other halfs are good friends...

Our vicallist will come to gigs in Manchester from time to time, it's all good in Vertiis-land!
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No thanks. I keep my real friends seperate from band guys. Not to say that I don't have musician friends, but the guys in the band I wouldn't want to go camping with. Maybe a night out to see another band, or a get together for a night for a barbecue, but that's about it.
At church, the band is pretty close and we do some social stuff outside of playing. Several go to the local diner after we play on Thursday nights. We also visit each other's houses during holiday periods, etc.

In my other band, I try to keep those guys a bit isolated and social activities to a minimum, as Larry does. The reason being that the two guitar players in the band were friends for 30 years, and then one of them just got up and left practice one night after an argument, and he hasn't been back since and the two haven't spoken in almost a year. We are very friendly and have fun and jokes during practice, but I don't want to risk developing friendships to a certain level and have them suddenly ended because of disagreements.
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Old 04-27-2011, 04:46 PM
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I've known my band members for 30+ years..every gig is a night out for the wives..then we try to all go out to dinner together and maybe watch another band a few times a year...then of course the road trip to GC or sam ash together (just the band no wives) is always a fun trip, even more so when buying a new pa or more stage lighting...
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