Living Dead Drummer
Platinum Member
Lots of great opinions and suggestion here. Thank you all.
Many of the things that were brought up are things I've tried with this student. Tried to figure out what kind of music she likes, focus less on the formal education aspects, and get into jamming to songs. Once I asked her find a song she likes and jam along to it, and she won't. She just doesn't care.
I have a reputation for being kind of a hard ass "Professor Snape" teacher. I've deliberately tried to dial that back with this kid. I could see early on that pushing hard wasn't going to deliver the desired results that I get with most others. So my approach has been to try and be a friendly face you get to hang with for an hour each week.
This past lesson rolled out like this:
Me: "Hey! How are you today?"
Student: (flat, mono-tone response) "Gooood"
Me: "Do anything fun over the weekend?"
Student: "We went to see Avengers"
Me: "Cool! Met too! What did you think?"
Student: "It sucked."
Me: (confused) "Uh, you didn't like it?"
Student: "It was long and boring."
Me: "Have you seen any of the other Marvel movies?"
Student: "Yeah, most of them all suck."
Me: "Uh, well I asked if you did anything fun...? Why did you go see a movie you knew you wouldn't like?"
Student: (no reply, dead blank look)
Me: (Trying to get her to laugh) "Is seeing crappy movies fun for you?"
Student: (shrugs, no smile, no laugh, just a dead blank look)
Me: "Well, comic book movies aren't for everyone. Sorry you didn't have a good time."
Many of the things that were brought up are things I've tried with this student. Tried to figure out what kind of music she likes, focus less on the formal education aspects, and get into jamming to songs. Once I asked her find a song she likes and jam along to it, and she won't. She just doesn't care.
I have a reputation for being kind of a hard ass "Professor Snape" teacher. I've deliberately tried to dial that back with this kid. I could see early on that pushing hard wasn't going to deliver the desired results that I get with most others. So my approach has been to try and be a friendly face you get to hang with for an hour each week.
This past lesson rolled out like this:
Me: "Hey! How are you today?"
Student: (flat, mono-tone response) "Gooood"
Me: "Do anything fun over the weekend?"
Student: "We went to see Avengers"
Me: "Cool! Met too! What did you think?"
Student: "It sucked."
Me: (confused) "Uh, you didn't like it?"
Student: "It was long and boring."
Me: "Have you seen any of the other Marvel movies?"
Student: "Yeah, most of them all suck."
Me: "Uh, well I asked if you did anything fun...? Why did you go see a movie you knew you wouldn't like?"
Student: (no reply, dead blank look)
Me: (Trying to get her to laugh) "Is seeing crappy movies fun for you?"
Student: (shrugs, no smile, no laugh, just a dead blank look)
Me: "Well, comic book movies aren't for everyone. Sorry you didn't have a good time."