Very old thread, I know, but I have exact same problem... Stopped drumming for 20 years, finally at age 47 picked up a Roland TD-30 and played for 5 years without ever touching a real drumset. When I finally joined a band, bought a nice set of acoustics and Paiste cymbals... which foolishly I used for the first time (in 25 years!), at our first gig, at a small bar. No surprise - we got kicked out for (my) being WAY TOO LOUD! That was a wakeup call - I had sh*t for dynamics, following years beating the e-kit as hard as I pleased. I've sinced worked with acoustics for over a year (practice, studio and live settings). So I'll have to agree with advice thus far, seems the key (as most everyone is saying) is just 'time on the throne' with the acoustic set.
That said, I do have a question for the group. I'm now considering a hybrid setup, using real cymbals and snare only, just like Mike Armstrong per his post. Reason is b/c of my preference largely for the bass drum... I find can do almost anything I want to (especially double bass rhythms) on my Roland KD-140 bass drum (mesh head)... which I can't seem to get anywhere close to doing on my 22" DW custom acoustic in terms of control. I'm using top of the line pedals DW 9000's, and I've tried all manner of different spring settings and beaters.
I'm not ruling out "just practice more" concept here, but I strongly suspect the Roland may simply be a superior playing surface. Also I've seen extreme metal drummers (that's not me) on YouTube say they prefer triggers for what appears to be a similar reason.
Q: Curious others' thoughts on the bass drum question alone... is the 'bouncier' e-kit mesh bass drum fundamentally a superior playing surface vs an acoustic head?
Q: Alternatively anyone have a tuning / muffling / trigger setup to recommend to make my acoustic bass head more (mesh) e-kit like?