Since most of your limbs are in use the whole time and you're stuck sitting in a chair, a drummer's stage presence is limited
That being said, i'll share with you a few of the things I do on stage, to at least "look" like you're having the time of your life up there. Even if you are not having fun, you have to act like it. If you're up there looking like you don't want to be there then that will translate to the crowd.
A couple things I do: If you have got any stick tricks, twirls, tosses that you are able to play within song context and stay in time, these are GREAT crowd pleasers! I would definately recommend them, but don't overdo them.
Bang your head! Having long-ish hair helps. Play with power, when you're going for the big crash on 1, really make it BIG! By that I mean slam those cymbals!(with proper technique of course, to prevent cracking
) put your whole body into it.
SMILE, lots! Make eye contact with people. Make goofy faces. Mouth the words to the song if you know them! I usually find a girl in the crowd, make eye contact and stick out my tongue at her in a childish manner. It works every time.
At the end(or beginning) of a song with a long holdout...you know...where you're just making the long SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH sound on your crashes, stand up! It looks really cool for a drummer to stand above his drumkit while playing even the simplest things!
As far as messing up goes, get used to it! Chances are, you are going to at least mess
something up every gig. The grand part of this is, that 99% of time, YOU and your band are going to be the only ones to notice
In my experience, the more I think about messing up, the more I mess up. Messing up is inevitable, the important part is how you deal with it. If you biff a little sticking or something don't make the "ugh" face, instead laugh it off, again, smile!
It looks better on you if someone in the crowd notices it(which they probably won't!)
In conclusion, have the time of your freakin' life up on stage man. If you look boring, you'll play boring, and the music as a whole will be boring because ultimately, the drummer is the driving force of the band. Okay, maybe the bass player too but we won't talk about that on DRUMMERworld.com now will we?
Good luck on your endeavours