Again, its the feel of a song. If it feels right it moves me, so I want to play it. I dont sweat over the minutia of the original drumming, I try to get the feel of the song right and go with that. If it feels right it is right.
I am another who hates drum solos, I am there to accompany the other musicians and to make the song live and breathe. Locking in with a good bass player and feeling the push and pull of a live band, there is nothing better.
Most of my limited chops come from happy mistakes while practicing, that way I feel they are unique to me. They are probably not, but no one taught me to play them, I found them through my own stumbling and experimentation. I love drumming, its a primal and compulsive passion.