I encourage you to buy new heads, top and bottom, and tune each drum to be in it's midrange, or either higher mid range or lower mid range, depending on your music requirements. The bass drum you probably want to keep single headed and muffled and tuned to it's lowest good sounding note.
There are so many head choices out there, but I will try and make it easier for you. The bottom heads on toms only....single ply 10 mil clear heads. Most everyone here will say the same thing. The top heads are either going to be single ply or 2 ply, clear or coated. That's where you decide what your music needs. The 1 ply will have the most open sound, and the 2 ply will sound more controlled. Coated or non coated...non coated is brighter, coated is warmer. The most open ringy sound will be 10 mil 1 ply clears top and bottom. The more controlled warmer tone will be had from the 2 ply coated head on top. Stay away from premuffled heads. You can muffle yourself if necessary.
Another option, for the recording, is to record to a click, (don't use a drummer) and send your stuff out to another drummer (in Bucks County PA for instance), who can add the drums to your songs via tracks exchanged over the internet. Perfectly fine solution for you there, with guaranteed less agg (assuming the drummer is capable and delivers a great final product)