Loseless
Junior Member
Hi everybody.
I've been visiting this site for some months and finally a got the guts to ask for help, as I am almost ready to give up drumming (again).
First let me explain the situation: I have no feeling while playing. I love music, know a lot about music history and am a capable drummer (enough to play on pubs and such places) but I just can't express what I feel around the people I play with.
I started learning drums 3 years ago, then stopped for a year due to the same problems. My "school" is one of the greatest around. Many great musicians came out of it, and many people around there had success and are always bringing the new guys down.
I don't have a band, heck, I don't even have a drum kit (this issue always kept me from venturing into buying one), but now that I came back to drumming and am improving greatly, I want to do it, I want to become a real drummer.
I only play with the schools band, at a bar, in which we play every weak. The better drummers solo the night (one is just about as good as myself, but he has more groove, although he has tempo issues), but I can't ever get to express what I'm feeling.
Maybe because I always feel like they unappreciated me, and only let me play the boring, easy musics (that I've been playing for months now). I just wanted a chance to prove them wrong, but how can I do it when I can't even smile while I play?
Even when I'm enjoying myself, I can never express that physically, and that's a huge problem for them.
Some other drummers say that I'm being too hard on myself, as I started playing not that much long ago. Others make jokes about me for not having a drum kit (when you need to have 2 jobs just to pay for collage things get a little complicated to those who don't have parents), and the master of the school, NEVER gives me credit for anything. I'm much self thought. Although I'm in the school, I quit the lessons 1 year after I started because the teacher couldn't teach me anything else. I've worked hard, practiced like crazy and proven them that even after stopping for a year, I could still play songs the never could (I have a great memory, so complicated musics don't scare me much).
Even so, they still don't take me serious, and that makes me feel helpless and useless, and therefore, I can't feel at ease.
Can anyone, please, help me somehow? I'm getting pretty frustrated and I'm afraid I might give up again
I thank you in advance.
PS: I'm the guy with less auto confidence ant self esteem around, that might explain a thing or two...
I've been visiting this site for some months and finally a got the guts to ask for help, as I am almost ready to give up drumming (again).
First let me explain the situation: I have no feeling while playing. I love music, know a lot about music history and am a capable drummer (enough to play on pubs and such places) but I just can't express what I feel around the people I play with.
I started learning drums 3 years ago, then stopped for a year due to the same problems. My "school" is one of the greatest around. Many great musicians came out of it, and many people around there had success and are always bringing the new guys down.
I don't have a band, heck, I don't even have a drum kit (this issue always kept me from venturing into buying one), but now that I came back to drumming and am improving greatly, I want to do it, I want to become a real drummer.
I only play with the schools band, at a bar, in which we play every weak. The better drummers solo the night (one is just about as good as myself, but he has more groove, although he has tempo issues), but I can't ever get to express what I'm feeling.
Maybe because I always feel like they unappreciated me, and only let me play the boring, easy musics (that I've been playing for months now). I just wanted a chance to prove them wrong, but how can I do it when I can't even smile while I play?
Even when I'm enjoying myself, I can never express that physically, and that's a huge problem for them.
Some other drummers say that I'm being too hard on myself, as I started playing not that much long ago. Others make jokes about me for not having a drum kit (when you need to have 2 jobs just to pay for collage things get a little complicated to those who don't have parents), and the master of the school, NEVER gives me credit for anything. I'm much self thought. Although I'm in the school, I quit the lessons 1 year after I started because the teacher couldn't teach me anything else. I've worked hard, practiced like crazy and proven them that even after stopping for a year, I could still play songs the never could (I have a great memory, so complicated musics don't scare me much).
Even so, they still don't take me serious, and that makes me feel helpless and useless, and therefore, I can't feel at ease.
Can anyone, please, help me somehow? I'm getting pretty frustrated and I'm afraid I might give up again
I thank you in advance.
PS: I'm the guy with less auto confidence ant self esteem around, that might explain a thing or two...