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Old 02-07-2015, 12:15 AM
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better not to take the gig, even if it seems good.

I went to an audition last night. Strong original material, great vocalist / songwriter, good players, own rehearsal studio, well financed. I was offered the gig - I turned it down.

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Hi Karen, thank you so much for the warm welcome last night. I really enjoyed playing with you all. Great bunch of people, & I believe there’s some real depth to the songs.

I’ve given this much thought, & although I believe I could carry the gig, I don’t think it’s right for me. I think you need a player who’s more experienced / comfortable in a lighter dynamic playing environment, as well as someone who leans more towards the jazz / popular / easy listening spectrum than me. I would frequently be thinking that the songs deserve drum parts that I’m not equipped to provide with any depth & credibility, & I would find that personally very frustrating.

I hope you understand my decision, & that you find the right player. I believe it’s worth the effort in persevering until you find that certain person. You have a good friendly team, & that makes it much easier for the right person to fit in.

My fondest regards, Andy.




Hi Andy

Thank you for your warm email and honesty, I always appreciate both, and thank you for making the long trip over on a cold February evening.
I am not surprised by how you feel, and I quite understand where you are coming from. I didn't necessarily see us as a fit when I saw your links, but thought perhaps you were looking for something a little way removed from what you normally do... It's got to feel right for everyone though. I feel I can speak for the rest of the band when I say we also enjoyed meeting you very much AND having your fantastic drumming even if only for one night, so it's a bit of a disappointment, however, on the bright side it only serves to demonstrate how great our songs will eventually sound with a full compliment, and makes me more determined to try and find someone. Your feedback on the material is also very much appreciated...

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Old 02-07-2015, 12:25 AM
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You may have been able to play the parts and done a fine job, but someone may be able to play them better because they dig the vibe better. Ain't nothing wrong with that. At least you were up front and honest with them. For all they know, a perfect fit drummer may be looking at their "drummer wanted" ad right now.
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Old 02-07-2015, 12:36 AM
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This is a classy interaction on both sides, and a good model of the way professionals communicate. Well done to both parties (although no surprise at all from you, Andy).
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Old 02-07-2015, 12:39 AM
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You may have been able to play the parts and done a fine job, but someone may be able to play them better because they dig the vibe better. Ain't nothing wrong with that. At least you were up front and honest with them. For all they know, a perfect fit drummer may be looking at their "drummer wanted" ad right now.
My take on it exactly. I was tempted - very, simply by the number of boxes ticked, but sometimes you have to detach from the moment a little, & be utterly honest with yourself. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should.

The big caveat however is recognising that I didn't need the gig to put food on the table. That's a whole 'nuther decision basis, although this was unlikely to be an earner in the short term.


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This is a classy interaction on both sides, and a good model of the way professionals communicate. Well done to both parties (although no surprise at all from you, Andy).
Thanks Al. No bridges burnt, & hopefully a genuinely good opportunity for another player who feels the music better than I did, or at least has a greater appropriate repertoire. I think I acquitted myself quite well considering (well, they did offer me the gig :). Quite a lot of latin content, brushwork, & the need for intensity at very low dynamic. Non of these skills are alien to me, but to say I'm rusty & limited is an understatement. That said, I think most of you would be quite surprised with what I came up with. Hell, I even surprised myself!
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Old 02-07-2015, 12:41 AM
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Very professionally done on both sides.

As opposed to:

"Sorry but I can't play the light s$%t!"
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Old 02-07-2015, 12:51 AM
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Very professionally done on both sides.

As opposed to:

"Sorry but I can't play the light s$%t!"
Hahahaha, Jeff, you're a very naughty boy! ;)

The audition was blind. They just played through their set, & I had to chime in on the fly. TBH, I like that, it pushes you big time.

First song in though, I stared at my sticks & thought "oh crap, I should have brought pencils"! Hey, at least I found out I've got a light touch backbeat / comp & grace notes with a pair of 1A's! Even worse, I brought a Tour series kit (22", 16", 12", 14" x 7"). Not exactly designed for the gig!
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Old 02-07-2015, 01:23 AM
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It's a funny old world when a mature and reasonable exchange between two intelligent adults is noteworthy.

Interesting decision, Andy. Maybe there was a touch of the gig not quite being your cuppa as well? Your adventure with the other band showed that you're prepared to take on musical challenges.

I think Jeff hit the nail on the head :)
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Old 02-07-2015, 03:16 AM
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It's a funny old world when a mature and reasonable exchange between two intelligent adults is noteworthy.

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Yeah I was kinda disappointed by that.

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Old 02-07-2015, 04:00 AM
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This thread only raises questions for me.

Like what's going on with Fired Up? You guys still together? Or not enough gigs?

What kind of band, if you could pick, are you looking to join?

Was the music not really in your comfort zone? Or didn't appeal to you?

Sorry, Mr. Q. Rious here.
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Old 02-07-2015, 05:09 AM
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I wish all of my searching for the right bandmates could have been as civilized as this one. And...way to know yourself and what you really want to be doing. I'm sure you were more than capable of the job but if the feels not right for you, no matter the instrument you play, it's just not going to be it's best. Nicely done.
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Old 02-07-2015, 09:05 AM
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Interesting decision, Andy. Maybe there was a touch of the gig not quite being your cuppa as well? Your adventure with the other band showed that you're prepared to take on musical challenges.

I think Jeff hit the nail on the head :)
Jeff kinda did hit the nail on the head, but only with reference to my own abilities. The "cuppa tea" angle didn't really apply either. I've found that things can become my cuppa tea quite easily from a playing enjoyment POV, even if it's stuff I ordinarily wouldn't listen to.

Although I'm happy to take on musical challenges, I'm seeking them even, I have to be realistic about how far away I am from the playing goal, & the level of work it will take to get there. I suppose I'm looking for something I can transfer my existing skill set to with mainly work on interpretation.

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Yeah I was kinda disappointed by that.

Andy, have you learnt nothing from Rogue's travails?
Sorry for the lack of drama. Next time, I'll make sure I post something involving gnashing of teeth, blood & snot, multiple references to questionable parentage/inbreeding, etc, etc ;)

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This thread only raises questions for me.
Like what's going on with Fired Up? You guys still together? Or not enough gigs?
Fired Up are going fine. Sure, not enough gigs (but there's a solid (temporary)health related reason for that), it's more about me scratching a creative itch. I miss original material & the creative process of recording.

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A two part answer. Right now, I'm gently looking for something offering original material, an edge, & a leaning towards recording. In my dreams, I'd be putting together a high energy funk act with full brass section but rock foundations, but that's not happening anytime soon. I think I'd struggle with the local musician pool on that idea :(

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Sorry, Mr. Q. Rious here.
Pretty much, although relating to my playing repertoire, & consequently my ability to do the best possible job of serving the songs.


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In a nutshell Mary, yes!
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Old 02-07-2015, 12:57 PM
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Iíve given this much thought, & although I believe I could carry the gig, I donít think itís right for me. I think you need a player whoís more experienced / comfortable in a lighter dynamic playing environment, as well as someone who leans more towards the jazz / popular / easy listening spectrum than me. I would frequently be thinking that the songs deserve drum parts that Iím not equipped to provide with any depth & credibility, & I would find that personally very frustrating.
What you wrote in your email has a taste of "deja vu" for me...

... that was exactly my thoughts when I auditioned for "Compartiment Fumeurs" back in the 80's, a jazzy/funk/french variety type of band with a horn section didn't seemed right for me, since I was coming from a heavy rock type of music at the time, I was literally shocked when they offered me the drummer position in the band... and although I had the same reservations as you did, I thought "why not? it could push me forward and expend my musical career"... so I accepted their offer and I never regretted it, I had a 4 years trip with this band, including some studio recordings... if anything, this band opened my view on drumming and made me more confident about myself drumming wise... I still do not understand why they hired me though, so out of style, so out of my confident zone.

While I think it's strange that a band offer a position to a musician which is not the right type musically, it can be beneficial for both, at the end of the day, they played their music and you played like you, if they offered you the position, it mean that they like/loved what you did and that perhaps you wouldn't had to make has much adjustment/work on your style of playing as you thought it would need. That was your interpretation of what type of drummer's needed for them, obviously, not their views, they've seen something in you that you haven't seen yourself :)

On the other hand, I really like the dream idea of your high energy funk act with full brass section but rock foundations, it would be my kinda band too :)
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Old 02-07-2015, 05:00 PM
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dude you almost fooled me this time. until I read the "return" email. total fabrication on your part. No one, and I mean no one would compliment your playing. I know it feels good to pat yourself on the back once in a while but to make up a story like this just to put it one the forum is just childish! its not even april fools day, you could have at least saved it for then.
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Personal and professional integrity are so crucial, in every aspect of life.
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I can completely understand your point of view, but If it was enjoyable, and the band sounded like they enjoyed your playing, then why not?

If it was only cos it was not your usual thing, but you enjoyed it, then surely it could have become your thing and also expanded your experience and ability.

Just a thought, as you seem to have a good time and liked the songs and the people.
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Old 02-07-2015, 07:07 PM
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While I think it's strange that a band offer a position to a musician which is not the right type musically, it can be beneficial for both, at the end of the day, they played their music and you played like you, if they offered you the position, it mean that they like/loved what you did and that perhaps you wouldn't had to make has much adjustment/work on your style of playing as you thought it would need. That was your interpretation of what type of drummer's needed for them, obviously, not their views, they've seen something in you that you haven't seen yourself :)
I can only agree with this Henri, but without appearing to be arrogant, I think I know what they need to serve the music long term, & it's not me. I understand exactly where you're coming from re: your previous band, & to me, the fit was obvious. I think if you'd been at the audition with me, you'd probably come to the same conclusion as I did. Ultimately, it's an effort vs. reward thing. If the opportunity was absolutely stellar, then maybe I could have taken the journey. The opportunity was very good, but not a game changer. Now the dream band with full brass section, that's a whole 'nuther basis for a decision :)

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dude you almost fooled me this time. until I read the "return" email. total fabrication on your part. No one, and I mean no one would compliment your playing. I know it feels good to pat yourself on the back once in a while but to make up a story like this just to put it one the forum is just childish! its not even april fools day, you could have at least saved it for then.
I could begin to take you seriously if your punctuation ability exceeded that of a 5 year old ;)

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Absolutely Jon. It always pays in the end. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Being true to others is a great life mantra, but being true to yourself if often the hardest path of all.


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I can completely understand your point of view, but If it was enjoyable, and the band sounded like they enjoyed your playing, then why not?

If it was only cos it was not your usual thing, but you enjoyed it, then surely it could have become your thing and also expanded your experience and ability.

Just a thought, as you seem to have a good time and liked the songs and the people.
Mike, if it was only the fact that the music wasn't ideal for me, or that a degree of work on my part would equip me for the gig, I would have taken it. I recently took a gig exactly as I've just described, & I'm enjoying it. This was different. I just knew in my bones that I would need a lot of work to deliver the kind of performance I would be happy with. Sure, this band would have been fine with me as I am, but I wouldn't. I'm fairly self critical.

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I can only agree with this Henri, but without appearing to be arrogant, I think I know what they need to serve the music long term, & it's not me. I understand exactly where you're coming from re: your previous band, & to me, the fit was obvious. I think if you'd been at the audition with me, you'd probably come to the same conclusion as I did. Ultimately, it's an effort vs. reward thing. If the opportunity was absolutely stellar, then maybe I could have taken the journey. The opportunity was very good, but not a game changer. Now the dream band with full brass section, that's a whole 'nuther basis for a decision :)

I could begin to take you seriously if your punctuation ability exceeded that of a 5 year old ;)

Absolutely Jon. It always pays in the end. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. Being true to others is a great life mantra, but being true to yourself if often the hardest path of all.


Mike, if it was only the fact that the music wasn't ideal for me, or that a degree of work on my part would equip me for the gig, I would have taken it. I recently took a gig exactly as I've just described, & I'm enjoying it. This was different. I just knew in my bones that I would need a lot of work to deliver the kind of performance I would be happy with. Sure, this band would have been fine with me as I am, but I wouldn't. I'm fairly self critical.


Is it because it would have taken you outside your comfort zone? Surely thats a good thing?
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Frankly, I can't believe you have the time to even consider a 3rd band. You continue to be my hero.
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"thank you for making the long trip over "

A bit of a drive eh mate? Would factor in for me too.
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Yes, but much deeper than that. Outside of your / my "comfort zone" is often used as a musically polite way of saying you / someone is crap at something. I'm crap at some of the technique / style I believe is necessary for this band. Sure, I could wing it & get away with it, but if I want to do something, I need to be satisfied I'm performing to a fairly high (comparatively) standard. To get to that point with the range of styles necessary for this band, would require years of work, & I don't have the time or dedication for that.

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I don't really TBH Larry, but I have a habit of creating time. Not sure where I steal it from, but I seem to get away with it. I was in the workshop until gone midnight last night, & I suspect something similar today. I find time to post here whilst waiting for shellac coats to dry & gaps in other activities that require curing / settling times.

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A bit of a drive eh mate? Would factor in for me too.
Drive wasn't too bad - around 40 miles / 50 minutes. For the right band, that's a non issue, & less than our guitarist in Fired Up currently travels for weekly rehearsals. Especially where I live, if you want access to good players / bands, then be prepared to travel.
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Yes, but much deeper than that. Outside of your / my "comfort zone" is often used as a musically polite way of saying you / someone is crap at something. I'm crap at some of the technique / style I believe is necessary for this band. Sure, I could wing it & get away with it, but if I want to do something, I need to be satisfied I'm performing to a fairly high (comparatively) standard. To get to that point with the range of styles necessary for this band, would require years of work, & I don't have the time or dedication for that.

I don't really TBH Larry, but I have a habit of creating time. Not sure where I steal it from, but I seem to get away with it. I was in the workshop until gone midnight last night, & I suspect something similar today. I find time to post here whilst waiting for shellac coats to dry & gaps in other activities that require curing / settling times.

Drive wasn't too bad - around 40 miles / 50 minutes. For the right band, that's a non issue, & less than our guitarist in Fired Up currently travels for weekly rehearsals. Especially where I live, if you want access to good players / bands, then be prepared to travel.
Not at all mate, I was not taking a pop at you. By comfort zone I mean just that, something you hardly even need to think about. When we first start playing our comfort zone is very small indeed, as we play and practice it expands, when we step up and play live it is scary but evenyualy our comfort zone expands to include playing in front of an audience.

Surely this would have just been another step along that road. You said yourself you enjoyed it, and the band liked you.

I recently helped form a Jazz Funk band with some great musicians, I have never played the genre in my life. I am working hard but loving the challenge, the other guys also said they are having to raise there game as we are pushing each other and keeping up with a great vocalist. At 63 its a new lease of life to be living on my musical edge again.
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Not at all mate, I was not taking a pop at you. By comfort zone I mean just that, something you hardly even need to think about. When we first start playing our comfort zone is very small indeed, as we play and practice it expands, when we step up and play live it is scary but evenyualy our comfort zone expands to include playing in front of an audience.

Surely this would have just been another step along that road. You said yourself you enjoyed it, and the band liked you.

I recently helped form a Jazz Funk band with some great musicians, I have never played the genre in my life. I am working hard but loving the challenge, the other guys also said they are having to raise there game as we are pushing each other and keeping up with a great vocalist. At 63 its a new lease of life to be living on my musical edge again.
Thanks Mike. I didn't take that as having a pop at me in the least :)

I agree with everything you're saying, but the sheer amount of work I would need to put in is unrealistic in my situation. I'm already recently playing for an act that's pushing me into playing areas I'm not comfortable with, but it's less of a leap compared to this band's needs (or at least, my perception of their needs). Additionally, I'm in a long standing rock covers band, & that's the act that doesn't push me too much musically.
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At the end of the day, it's your call, it's your feelings and if you didn't feel right for the job, whatever the reasons, we have to respect your decision...

... but as a matter of a discussion topic, I'll add a few comments on this complicated and ambiguous situation :)

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I went to an audition last night...
Did you apply for the audition or did they call you?

Do you know if they auditioned other drummers?

It does make a difference...

While Karen admit herself "I didn't necessarily see us as a fit when I saw your links", if they called YOU, it means that they had/see something in their minds that you could fit the drummer's spot, which suggest that maybe they wanted the band to take a new road, often bands/artists have hired an out of character player to bring something new, fresh and different to their music.

If you called them to have an audition, then, yes, all your concerns and reservations makes perfect sense, only you can decide if you can fit or not fit, even if they liked your playing, you made the move towards them, they didn't, even if you put an idea/path in their heads, it remains your call.

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I feel I can speak for the rest of the band when I say we also enjoyed meeting you very much AND having your fantastic drumming even if only for one night, so it's a bit of a disappointment...

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This to me indicate that they seen that your drumming would fit their perspective/structure for the future.

Referring to my audition with CP, they call me... which implied that they wanted something different than the "normal" recipe for such a band, once I was part of the band, they made me listen to some recordings featuring their previous (1st) drummer, oh my... it was like day and night, water and wine, this guy was a "proper" jazz drummer, but I guess I fitted for the new path they wanted to take, and to be honest, I didn't have to make such an effort to change my style of drumming, most of the changes I had to make were more orientated within dynamics in my playing.

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Even worse, I brought a Tour series kit (22", 16", 12", 14" x 7"). Not exactly designed for the gig!
When I auditioned for CP I had a double bass drums set up consisting of 2 24", 13", 14" in power size, 18", 14"x8" and a side 14"x5"... a long way from the previous drummer's 4 piece set up in standard jazz size, lol

Same with my cymbals set up, 18" and 19" rock crashes, 22" Earth ride, not what you call subtle :)

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Indeed Jon, it has actually open doors for me in my professional life.

Now if someone call you Jon for an audition and they offer you the drummer seat, in my book your integrity is intact, they chose and wanted you, your integrity could have been what got you the gig :)

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I think if you'd been at the audition with me, you'd probably come to the same conclusion as I did.
Perhaps... difficult to say without hearing and seeing the audition.


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...but it's less of a leap compared to this band's needs (or at least, my perception of their needs).
Yes, your perception... not necessarily theirs...

In one of CP's song, the original arrangement was played with brushes, very jazz like... and it ended up with a strong groove with a fat backbeat when I played it, you would barely be able to say it was the same song.

Also when I joined CP, everything was much easier when we wrote new material together, in the end we only played 2 or 3 tracks live which were written before my time in the band, I believe that the chemistry of the players in a band affect the end result, it's not better or worse, it's just a chapter in a band's life, you change that chemistry, you change the end result.

I still believe that you would have fitted Karen's band and be part of that chapter of this band, bringing something different in the meantime.

Sorry for the long post, but the point is: Being an out of character as a player doesn't necessarily mean a player could not fit a band, or indeed, need to change his natural style.
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Now that I'm middle-aged, I'm finding that opportunities to do original stuff are becoming less and less because most of the bands are younger people who don't want players over 30 y.o.

I'm in a covers band and originals band and I'll tell you what, the originals band is far more gratifying to me musically. I've played those cover songs a thousand times and it just becomes dull after awhile. Sometimes I feel like I want to quit because of the the fact that I'm so sick of those songs. We just got our Hammond player back last Thurs. in the originals band and the vibe was just amazing. I had just watched the James Brown movie before I went to practice, so I came with a Clyde frame of mind. It got funky. I'll take that musical journey any day over a boring gig at a shithole bar playing cover songs. I appreciate playing gigs, but it's mostly drumming for them, not me.


My point is, at this age, covers bands are a dime a dozen, but opportunities to play originals is few and far between. I wouldn't join just any band, but I would stretch my drumming prowess to fit a project that may not be my preferred style just to play originals because covers bands just don't really do it for me.
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At the end of the day, it's your call, it's your feelings and if you didn't feel right for the job, whatever the reasons, we have to respect your decision...

... but as a matter of a discussion topic, I'll add a few comments on this complicated and ambiguous situation :)



Did you apply for the audition or did they call you?

Do you know if they auditioned other drummers?

It does make a difference...

While Karen admit herself "I didn't necessarily see us as a fit when I saw your links", if they called YOU, it means that they had/see something in their minds that you could fit the drummer's spot, which suggest that maybe they wanted the band to take a new road, often bands/artists have hired an out of character player to bring something new, fresh and different to their music.

If you called them to have an audition, then, yes, all your concerns and reservations makes perfect sense, only you can decide if you can fit or not fit, even if they liked your playing, you made the move towards them, they didn't, even if you put an idea/path in their heads, it remains your call.



This to me indicate that they seen that your drumming would fit their perspective/structure for the future.

Referring to my audition with CP, they call me... which implied that they wanted something different than the "normal" recipe for such a band, once I was part of the band, they made me listen to some recordings featuring their previous (1st) drummer, oh my... it was like day and night, water and wine, this guy was a "proper" jazz drummer, but I guess I fitted for the new path they wanted to take, and to be honest, I didn't have to make such an effort to change my style of drumming, most of the changes I had to make were more orientated within dynamics in my playing.



When I auditioned for CP I had a double bass drums set up consisting of 2 24", 13", 14" in power size, 18", 14"x8" and a side 14"x5"... a long way from the previous drummer's 4 piece set up in standard jazz size, lol

Same with my cymbals set up, 18" and 19" rock crashes, 22" Earth ride, not what you call subtle :)



Indeed Jon, it has actually open doors for me in my professional life.

Now if someone call you Jon for an audition and they offer you the drummer seat, in my book your integrity is intact, they chose and wanted you, your integrity could have been what got you the gig :)



Perhaps... difficult to say without hearing and seeing the audition.




Yes, your perception... not necessarily theirs...

In one of CP's song, the original arrangement was played with brushes, very jazz like... and it ended up with a strong groove with a fat backbeat when I played it, you would barely be able to say it was the same song.

Also when I joined CP, everything was much easier when we wrote new material together, in the end we only played 2 or 3 tracks live which were written before my time in the band, I believe that the chemistry of the players in a band affect the end result, it's not better or worse, it's just a chapter in a band's life, you change that chemistry, you change the end result.

I still believe that you would have fitted Karen's band and be part of that chapter of this band, bringing something different in the meantime.

Sorry for the long post, but the point is: Being an out of character as a player doesn't necessarily mean a player could not fit a band, or indeed, need to change his natural style.
I thought all of this too. But at the end of the day Andy decided it wasn't for him, and he knows himself best. So I support him.
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But at the end of the day Andy decided it wasn't for him, and he knows himself best. So I support him.
That's what I said on the first line in my post, so yes, I support and respect his decision... despite the fact I know Andy could do it... by being Andy :)
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Oh yea, no question he could have done it. He doesn't know how to fail. Well that's what it looks like from where I'm sitting anyway. That's why I went through that whole process just like you.
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My point is, at this age, covers bands are a dime a dozen, but opportunities to play originals is few and far between. I wouldn't join just any band, but I would stretch my drumming prowess to fit a project that may not be my preferred style just to play originals because covers bands just don't really do it for me.
I'm with you on that message. I'm older than you, & have to fight even harder against age related apathy re original material. It's a young persons game mostly, & I'm not :(

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Unfortunately Larry, I'm well acquainted with failure, but I have a rubber constitution plus a high degree of stupidity, hence I still try stuff :)


Guys, the decision was a simple effort vs. reward calculation. This band would require (according to my thinking) a fairly wide range of latin grooves, a broad jazz comping ability, & mastery of low dynamic intensity. I'm ok (ish) on the last point, but on the first two, I'm faking it big time. With the "spare" time I have available, it would take me at least a year to get good enough to satisfy myself. If the band was something out of this world, then a different decision, but they were just very good, & that wasn't enough to tip the balance. Ultimately, I wasn't prepared to enter into something that would frustrate me, & possibly equate to me letting them down. I don't do letting people down at all well!
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Unfortunately Larry, I'm well acquainted with failure, but I have a rubber constitution plus a high degree of stupidity, hence I still try stuff :)

LOLOLOLOL! If your Pop wore a rubber, you'd have found a way through lol

I'm ok (ish) on the last point, but on the first two, I'm faking it big time.
Oh man that's how I learn, I fake it. I'm fairly undisciplined. I never listened to Reggae. I don't do the one drop. Not really sure what it is TBH. But we do about 6 reggae tunes. I accent beat 3 a lot, it's my downbeat/rimclick/pssht unison thing that makes it feel like reggae to me. I have no idea if that's even in the vocabulary, I just feel it like that.

I've gotten a couple unexpected compliments from other musicians how much they like my reggae beats. I'm like OooooKayyy...I have no clue what I'm doing. So OK I try and make it feel like reggae without it being actual reggae. I'm totally faking it, but it doesn't seem to matter. We play the old standard "Fly Me To The Moon". I never played anything like that before. I just play off what the others are doing, it doesn't matter that I don't know the style. I can hear what it needs without knowing the style.

Faking it is great fun. Like I'm fooling them lol.
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I realise you are a very busy guy and I have no right to try and influence you to take on something else but:

You turned up for an audition with another band, when you say you dont have time?

Perhaps they said they loved the way you played cos they could see your influence on the music and liked the idea of it being taken somewhere slightly different.

A band is the sum of its parts, what is wrong with you bringing your thing to the party. The band certainly liked it. You bend slightly to incorporate them and they do the same, the result could be very special, who knows unless you try?
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I realise you are a very busy guy and I have no right to try and influence you to take on something else but:

You turned up for an audition with another band, when you say you dont have time?

Perhaps they said they loved the way you played cos they could see your influence on the music and liked the idea of it being taken somewhere slightly different.

A band is the sum of its parts, what is wrong with you bringing your thing to the party. The band certainly liked it. You bend slightly to incorporate them and they do the same, the result could be very special, who knows unless you try?
Mike, I can make time for something I believe can be achieved in months rather than years, but not something that requires a huge amount of time improving my own basic skills. They liked the way I played on the night, & in the context of an audition playing on the fly / jamming, but when they talked about the feel they were shooting for, it further reinforced the need for me to acquire skills in areas where I'm very weak - hence the work element.

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Faking it is great fun. Like I'm fooling them lol.
I can live with that in a cover band Larry, & I agree, it's challenging & fun. Faking it in a band that wants to record original material however = different story :(
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Sorry Henri, I forgot to mention. I called them :)
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Mike, I can make time for something I believe can be achieved in months rather than years, but not something that requires a huge amount of time improving my own basic skills. They liked the way I played on the night, & in the context of an audition playing on the fly / jamming, but when they talked about the feel they were shooting for, it further reinforced the need for me to acquire skills in areas where I'm very weak - hence the work element.

I can live with that in a cover band Larry, & I agree, it's challenging & fun. Faking it in a band that wants to record original material however = different story :(
As you can see from most of the posts, Andy, most on here believe you sell yourself short. Anyway, I am on your side mate, whatever you decide to do is good.

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Sorry Henri, I forgot to mention. I called them :)
Thanks Andy.

Make sense to me now... :)
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I think there's a difference between being able to get though the gig, and feeling like you can contribute something to the music. Even if it's not in your regular wheelhouse you might have something to say. But if it just feels like you'd be forcing it, then the right decision would be to step aside.

Maybe at some point, you'll get into that kind of music, develop an affinity for the vocabulary, or hear in your head something that you think would bring some new spice to the proceedings.
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I think there's a difference between being able to get though the gig, and feeling like you can contribute something to the music. Even if it's not in your regular wheelhouse you might have something to say. But if it just feels like you'd be forcing it, then the right decision would be to step aside.
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Andy

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One day, I'll be there.

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You obviously don't know me that well Dave --- & here was me thinking we were close ;) ;) ;)

Update - unexpected occurrence this evening. The band called me to ask permission to use a recording of the audition as example tracks in their drummer advert. How weird is that!
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