Mid- life career change

aydee

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I know this forum has been rapped lately for being a little too 'fogey friendly' and also that it is fundamentally about drummers and drumming, but I also know that there are some other people like me here who are in their 40s, 50s, who have full fledged careers but still manage to work in some professional gigs on the ocassional weekend.

My question though is about none of the above. I was wondering how many of you have made a career change late in life. Spent most of your working life in one career and made a big change thereafter.... by choice or by neccesity.

Old dog new tricks, anyone?

Im on the verge of taking a big plunge.

Any experiences or feelings about this to share?

thanks..


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Working as an analyst but these days I'm mostly caring for my elderly father, which is a tough gig for me because I have zero nurturing instincts. The future is uncertain.

Abe, surely you're not thinking of changing careers ... or has Hiromi offered you a gig? :)
 
Working as an analyst but these days I'm mostly caring for my elderly father, which is a tough gig for me because I have zero nurturing instincts. The future is uncertain.

Abe, surely you're not thinking of changing careers ... or has Hiromi offered you a gig? :)

LOL, yea right, maybe if Im good I'll get to polish her Steinway.... : ) Yes, there is a fork in the road and there is an option which includes less travel, which is very tempting. Gigging should remain unaffected in both situations- couple of times a month.

I hear you on your situation, and I dont buy the line " I dont have any nurturing instincts"

Hang in there.

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It'd be a shame to walk away from a career like yours, but I can understand your wish not to travel all the time.

Here's an idea ... we could swap jobs! (analyst, not carer).

I'll pop Dad in a nursing home and I'll zip around the world being creative and you can do 9 to 5 in a comfortable office doing the bidding of a bunch of floundering executives ... and you'd be getting home in time to kick the dog and beat the kids :)
 
Working as an analyst but these days I'm mostly caring for my elderly father, which is a tough gig for me because I have zero nurturing instincts. The future is uncertain.
Now that's a tough gig I know only too well. Chin up girl :)

Abe, or has Hiromi offered you a gig? :)
Argghh, that would scare the crap out of me (plus, I wouldn't be concentrating exclusively on the music) ;)

Yes Abe. Done that, & sort of doing that again now. Ok, it's a long story with me, & I'm sure you know most of it, so I won't bore you with the detail.

20 years of corporate company building crap. The first 10 years working my arse off to build things up. The second 10 years working at the top of my industry, & all the stress, travelling, BS, etc that entails. I took a year out (mostly enforced due to ill health), then back into the game but at a consulting level, & now part time. The consulting thing enables me to manage my time, yet maintain a background income. I'm now moving slowly towards directing my energies into the Guru project. Absolutely no chance of getting a return on my investment in the next 2 years, let alone any income, but I'm hopeful that will succeed & mature to the point where I am able to cut a living eventually. It's not a great financially sound idea, frankly, if I wanted to make big money, I could simply flick a switch & go back into my previous industry, but it is so much more fulfilling.

I've had enough scares in my life to realise it's all about experiences & fulfilment, so long as you can cover the basics of living. It's my dearest hope that any change you're making is for the same reasons.
 
I've had enough scares in my life to realise it's all about experiences & fulfilment, so long as you can cover the basics of living. It's my dearest hope that any change you're making is for the same reasons.

I was hoping you would respond, because your history is somewhat similar to mine.. at least some of it.

Nothing like a health issues to bring priorites into sharp focus. We are dealing with one as a family as you know, so I do get it.

My option brings me a little bit closer to my passion, though it is still the proverbial 'day gig'. It has more to do with the business of music than previously... dont really know if thats good or bad, yet.

Your last paragraph is something Im grateful for because it makes me think... and consider my options purely from an internal perspective..

Change is scary at this stage in my career and one wonders if one can make the transition smoothly... ya, fulfilment... now I need to find out what that is : )

Thanks, Andy.

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It'd be a shame to walk away from a career like yours, but I can understand your wish not to travel all the time.

Here's an idea ... we could swap jobs! (analyst, not carer).

I'll pop Dad in a nursing home and I'll zip around the world being creative and you can do 9 to 5 in a comfortable office doing the bidding of a bunch of floundering executives ... and you'd be getting home in time to kick the dog and beat the kids :)

Would be happy to except I have no head for numbersdatacrunchingtech wizardry. The idea of travel is glamourous, only if your're not travelling. Trust me!

Im ready to walk away, I think Pol, but its just a little nerve wracking .. do I have the energy to try and make a go of a new thing, is the ugly question sitting on my chest every night thesedays.


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I'm someone who is in the age range you mention that has had no choice but to switch. I worked for a large corporation doing what I enjoyed doing for almost 20 years until just last year all of our work was shipped overseas.

Unfortunately there's not much left of that sort of work any longer here in the States and I'm not sure how interested my wife and I are in leaving family behind by relocating to one of the few other states where that sort of work is (for the time being). This leaves me into a situation where a career change is a must.

While I will miss what I used to do, my heart and obligation is not with any corporation - ultimately it's with my family. So as long as we can make do with some sort of work situation where our lives are content in the big picture, we'll be satisfied.

My suggestion to you if you are planning on a switch is be prepared in all aspects - emotionally & financially. If you haven't already, get some books and read up on what to anticipate.

Good luck!
 
.... no choice... not much left of that sort of work any longer here.. .... work situation where our lives are content in the big picture, we'll be satisfied.... read up on what to anticipate.

Good luck!

Thanks dmacc. Its is saddening to hear of stories of the economy beating people up where there are no choices, but you are right, the big picture is key and educating myself with the new scenario might actally be stimulating. I hope things work out for you & your family in you new circumstances.

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Would be happy to except I have no head for numbersdatacrunchingtech wizardry. The idea of travel is glamourous, only if your're not travelling. Trust me!

Im ready to walk away, I think Pol, but its just a little nerve wracking .. do I have the energy to try and make a go of a new thing, is the ugly question sitting on my chest every night thesedays.

Screw the glamour :) I simply haven't travelled much and doing it for work seems like a cushy way to do it because you have people help organise things. Just for, say, 3 to 5 years and then return to blobdom.

Not easy to get out of your comfort zone after a long settled period. When I work out how to do it I'll pass it on ...


I worked for a large corporation doing what I enjoyed doing for almost 20 years until just last year all of our work was shipped overseas.

Offshoring. Outsourcing. Downsizing. Everyone's doing it. My work's obsessed with it. I've been hoping for a redundancy but I pass on the numbers and they love numbers. I refuse to spin the figures in the negative way the top brass want - if there's mitigating circumstances they're going to see it.

It's dumb ... they almost always overdo it and end up with corporate anorexia and loss of corporate knowledge.

So now, dmacc, you've been pushed out of your comfort zone and have to explore option #2. Hopefully your adjustment period will last long enough to be stimulating, but not long enough to be too wearing.

A kick up the bum is good for us at times, but there are limits, especially at this age.
 
Screw the glamour :)
Abe knows where I'm coming from here; Travelling with work is a bummer. The mindset, the stress, the obligations, not to mention the scheduling, oh, & did I mention the expectation of results? It's fine the first few times out, but I spent 15 years away from home for 9 months + / year (not in one chunk). There were highlights, don't get me wrong, but they were few & far between. Travelling soon gets tiresome, but it did dramatically widen my outlook on life, so for that, I'm grateful.

Oh, Abe, there is one very boring thing to consider: Remember that most of your value resides in your reputation/experience within your present industry. Be prepared for that "starting over at the bottom" hurdle, but use your accumulated wisdom to climb back up more rapidly than before. Never underestimate just how much easier things are for you now, as a result of your equity in the game :)
 
Old dog new tricks, anyone?

Im on the verge of taking a big plunge.

Any experiences or feelings about this to share?

thanks..


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Well Abe, welcome to my world ... :)

I've taken the big plunge several times in my life, and at 53 years of age, I'm about to undertake another plunge and another country move, although I'm not 100% confident about this one, I will have to see what the future is upholding for me. :)

All my previous career moves were somehow unintentional, it's mainly due to the fact that I moved to different countries around Europe and the avaibility of jobs in every country, not always easy to find a day's job within your field of work, so far I have done about 5 major different careers, not counting the in between jobs to keep the cash flow coming in. :)

The reasons to move so often accross Europe have been both by choice and/or by nessecity.

I wish you success in your new career. ;-)
 
Not easy to get out of your comfort zone after a long settled period. When I work out how to do it I'll pass it on ...

When I have found out how to do it, I'll let you know, so far it's all been about being at the right place at the right time and making the effort to settle down in a new environment, and I always wondered what my life would have been by remaining in the comfort zone of my first or second career. :)
 
Does 63 count as being in ones 50's. First does the fork in the road offer job security? Does it provide you with something you want to do?. And is it something you have the skills to do? If you can answer yes to all of the above, then go for it.
 
Oh boy, does that puzzle me :) I often think what I'd become if I'd remained a jobbing drummer. Probably nothing attractive, although I'd like to think otherwise.

I tend to think that when you're into a career, you make it work, and take all the necessity, effort and motivation to remain at a satisfying professional level for your own self estime, if you had choseen to remain a jobbing drummer, you'll probably would have made the necessary commitment to stay at the level of the evolution within the music industry :)

For my part, as far as music is concerned, I would probably been better off by staying in my country, it has never been the same after my first country move. :)
 
does the fork in the road offer job security? Does it provide you with something you want to do?. And is it something you have the skills to do? If you can answer yes to all of the above, then go for it.

Honestly GD,.......I think so. I think so. I think so. : )


Job security wise it transitions me into a more relevant and growing industry. DO I want to do it, yes... its more time in the music industry even though its the uglier side of it. Do I have the skills...well sort of.. its like being a veterinarian and then switching over to being a dog walker.. some things change some remain the same ( in principle )

MAD's so right in that we all find a way to make things work even if circumstances are not ideal, and find ways to be be happy and content regardless of the cards dealt out to us.

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Well Abe, welcome to my world ... :)

I've taken the big plunge several times in my life, and at 53 years of age, I'm about to undertake another plunge and another country move, although I'm not 100% confident about this one, I will have to see what the future is upholding for me. :)

All my previous career moves were somehow unintentional, it's mainly due to the fact that I moved to different countries around Europe and the avaibility of jobs in every country, not always easy to find a day's job within your field of work, so far I have done about 5 major different careers, not counting the in between jobs to keep the cash flow coming in. :)

The reasons to move so often accross Europe have been both by choice and/or by nessecity.

I wish you success in your new career. ;-)

Thanks, Henri. Like you yourself say, there is no downside in the end if you have the right perspective. It builds character!!! : ) Just curious, what is the unemployemnt rate in EU collectively? The US is finally somewwhat down from last year to about 8%

PS- Andy is the way he is because he's had this incredible life, and not all of it has been fun. ( You can take that any way you like ; )

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Thanks dmacc. Its is saddening to hear of stories of the economy beating people up where there are no choices, but you are right, the big picture is key and educating myself with the new scenario might actally be stimulating. I hope things work out for you & your family in you new circumstances.
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Thanks. I hope the same for you as well.

Offshoring. Outsourcing. Downsizing. Everyone's doing it. My work's obsessed with it. I've been hoping for a redundancy but I pass on the numbers and they love numbers. I refuse to spin the figures in the negative way the top brass want - if there's mitigating circumstances they're going to see it.

It's dumb ... they almost always overdo it and end up with corporate anorexia and loss of corporate knowledge.

So now, dmacc, you've been pushed out of your comfort zone and have to explore option #2. Hopefully your adjustment period will last long enough to be stimulating, but not long enough to be too wearing.

A kick up the bum is good for us at times, but there are limits, especially at this age.

First - yes - screw the glamor of travel. I did it and hated it. I also agree, they downsize until it hurts them but they don't care. I left on good terms though.

Not totally sure what #2 option is but I hope to think something will work out for the better. I'll never make what I was making since my local economy is just not that good any longer with those types of job situations so, like a drummer does, I'll need to improvise in life & work.

Abe knows where I'm coming from here; Travelling with work is a bummer. The mindset, the stress, the obligations, not to mention the scheduling, oh, & did I mention the expectation of results? It's fine the first few times out, but I spent 15 years away from home for 9 months + / year (not in one chunk). There were highlights, don't get me wrong, but they were few & far between. Travelling soon gets tiresome, but it did dramatically widen my outlook on life, so for that, I'm grateful.

Oh, Abe, there is one very boring thing to consider: Remember that most of your value resides in your reputation/experience within your present industry. Be prepared for that "starting over at the bottom" hurdle, but use your accumulated wisdom to climb back up more rapidly than before. Never underestimate just how much easier things are for you now, as a result of your equity in the game :)

Andy

I agree - the traveling is terrible!

Extremely insightful reply on the balance as well.. Kudos for that statement.
 
I worked for the state of Texas for ten years and was laid off along with 20% of our agency 13 months ago. I've had a knock about life..managing retail stores, selling high end stereo, high end Italian furniture, outside sales. None of it was very satisfying.

Two months before the layoff, my brother, who I was very close to, died of cancer.

I've wrestled bipolar disorder for 30 years and after that one-two punch, I said, f*** it. I had some money and my brother left me some money but it won't go much further.

I haven't even done a resume or looked for a job and I won't for a few more months. I think that I've needed this time and my doctors haven't pushed me. Sometimes you don't want to push people like me.

So, maybe I'll find something bearable but all I really need is a paycheck and very good insurance.

I've been in a midlife change of careers my whole life.
 
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